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To not do a Christmas food shop?

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ChristmasLightss · 23/12/2024 18:20

I don’t have much money (£50 until I get paid on Friday) this is our first Christmas without my ex husband, we have been split for 6 months. My mum and dad have told me not worry as they are doing Christmas dinner and have lots of food in for us. I just feel like I should do a Christmas food shop. I am not feeling this Christmas at all it all feels really strange.

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ChristmasLightss · 23/12/2024 18:27

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i have 2 children aged 4 and 7. I have got them everything they want from Santa and spent an absolute fortune but not budgeted for the Christmas shop obviously.

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AdoraBell · 23/12/2024 18:27

YANBU OP. Unless you really want to something like a specific dessert/nibbles then just accept your parents providing food.

flutterby1 · 23/12/2024 18:26

You could buy a box of quality streets , that's what I've done ...

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ChristmasLightss · 23/12/2024 18:22

I feel like a failure because I only have £50 left. All the Christmas presents are bought, Christmas Eve boxes etc I just usually have a massive full fridge.

It doesn't sound like you're a failure at all, and you're being sensible not blowing what money you've got left.
Christmas can be hard for lots of folk, for lots of reasons, but I hope you enjoy the meal at your parents.

justasking111 · 23/12/2024 18:25

We're out all over Christmas. I've cooked a ham for sandwiches, bought some cheese and crackers, some sweets, peanuts, crisps. That's it.

It does feel odd.

MillicentMargaretAmanda · 23/12/2024 18:25

You are being unreasonable to think that you need to do a Christmas food shop when you'll be at your parents who seem to be happy to provide the food. You are also being unreasonable for feeling like a failure when you have in fact got all your presents etc sorted and still have £50 left until the end of the week. Be kind to yourself!

GrumpyCactus · 23/12/2024 18:25

This seems like an odd thing to worry over. Your parents have lots of food and your children have presents and presumably stuff to eat on Christmas eve and boxing day?

Like you we're going to relatives on Christmas day and don't have a fridge full of food because we won't need it.

BCBird · 23/12/2024 18:24

No point. Ask if u can take something. Invite them.you.one weekend. Perhaps get yourself a treat to.have.

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ChristmasLightss · 23/12/2024 18:23

Dollshousedolly · 23/12/2024 18:22

If you’ve enough food and only £50 until Friday, then you don’t need a food shop. But if you want to get some chocolate/sweets/whatever, maybe use £15 of the £50 and get a few bits?

£15 goes nowhere these days does it.

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flutterby1 · 23/12/2024 18:23

Get rid of the guilt, you can't afford it this year. Don't worry xxx

CrushOnEminem · 23/12/2024 18:23

Do you have food in to feed your children apart from christmas day with your parents?
I wouldn't worry about buying festive treats etc just focus on making sure you have proper food for dinners & lunches

Dollshousedolly · 23/12/2024 18:22

If you’ve enough food and only £50 until Friday, then you don’t need a food shop. But if you want to get some chocolate/sweets/whatever, maybe use £15 of the £50 and get a few bits?

duckduckgooseduckagain · 23/12/2024 18:22

No. I think you should save your money as if you are going to your parents you don't really need anything. Have a good Christmas x

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ChristmasLightss · 23/12/2024 18:22

I feel like a failure because I only have £50 left. All the Christmas presents are bought, Christmas Eve boxes etc I just usually have a massive full fridge.

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temperance81 · 23/12/2024 18:21

If you aren't going to be there, honestly what's the point? You can only do what you can do x