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Christmas Family meal without Husband

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Kittycat1969 · 23/12/2024 12:57

I’ll keep it short so as not to bore you, but my husbands adult son works away and my husband hasn’t seen him for about 18 months, they are close in that they text and speak on the phone regular. We are seeing him over the Christmas period (not Christmas Day) but we have just found out that sons sister, grandparent and Aunt and Uncle are meeting for a meal on Christmas Eve and we only found out by hearsay that this is happening. My husband has not been invited! He hasn’t fallen out with any of his family, in fact we are hosting them all Christmas Day.

AIBU to be angry about this, I resisted the urge to message them all but I feel like I may something at Christmas. My husband just shrugged his shoulders and said they just don’t think

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Kittycat1969 · 23/12/2024 13:09

applestewing · 23/12/2024 13:08

i don’t get the relevance to your dh keeping in touch with his son
and not being invited to a meal his son isn’t at?

His son is at it, sorry I didn’t explain very well. Son is only around for 3 days as he works quite a way away

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Hufflemuff · 23/12/2024 13:08

It's a piss take to get you organising Christmas, but not invite you to this meal!?

Is there other drama that prevents you all getting together?

applestewing · 23/12/2024 13:08

i don’t get the relevance to your dh keeping in touch with his son
and not being invited to a meal his son isn’t at?

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Kittycat1969 · 23/12/2024 13:04

Katy232425 · 23/12/2024 13:01

Son’s sister, aunt, uncle and grandparent as in your DH’s child, sibling and parent?!

Yeah, I’d be pretty upset about that and I’d be asking the organiser why I’d been left out. That’s at best really really thoughtless and unkind.

Yes, sons sister, sons grandparent and his aunt and uncle (my husbands brother and wife) all my husbands close family. I’m absolutely fuming about this, he’s spoken to them and seen them lots of time since this has been arranged. I brought it up in a group chat with h/brother the other day when then we were making arrangements for Christmas Day and brother just acknowledged and still didn’t ask my husband to come. I feel like telling them not to come for Christmas, they haven’t contributed or offered to at all

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Katy232425 · 23/12/2024 13:01

Son’s sister, aunt, uncle and grandparent as in your DH’s child, sibling and parent?!

Yeah, I’d be pretty upset about that and I’d be asking the organiser why I’d been left out. That’s at best really really thoughtless and unkind.