Am I being unreasonable to leave my in-laws’ at Christmas because MIL won’t stop with trying to guess if I'm pregnant

What an absolute savage. I would be going nowhere near her. Keep your family unit safe

Hand on the arm, 'remember that chat we had about pregnancy jokes - you've just done it again, just thought you might have forgotten - thanks for being so understanding'
And then if she does it again 'are you okay xxx? Remember what she talked about?' On repeat, grey rock style.
These people don't understand they are being weird/mean, and telling them nicely off to the side doesn't work, so you unfortunately have to do it in the moment - it feels so unnatural but it is what it is. I'm so sorry you're going through everything, hope the festive season passes okay for you.

Say 'stop asking if I'm pregnant!' and then cry. Seriously. Let it out. If you snap and get cross she'll be the 'victim'. If you're obviously upset (which you are!) she can't do that. Embarrass the fuck out of her and make her scared to even look at you below the neck ever again. Then, depending on what she does, either leave or stay.

Just say. Ffs shut up. Im not a baby factory for you. Anymore comments and we will be leaving

I would make it obvious that you are leaving because of her comments - wait for her to say one more, loom her straight in the eye and tell her straight that she has had enough warnings to stop commenting, and as she hasnt been able to keep her mouth shut, you'll act instead and then leave.

If you randomly leave she'll be able to make out youre BU. Make it obvious it is all on her

Try the " when you say x it makes me feel y" approach.

If you let her know the impact of what she's saying then she's more likely to stop rather than just being told to stop.

Most conflict happens when the other side doesn't understand the other person's point of view, so you have to explain it.

Just stop often doesn't work.

Take the head off her with a FFS Jane you've been told to stop mithering me about pregnancy so why won't you? Where were when they were giving out empathy given you can't understand that you are upsetting both of us. Pissing off the mother of the grandchild you want to dote over isn't a clever move is it?! '

That’s so awful of her, and unless she is completely devoid of empathy, she is doing it deliberately.

I think I would just pack up and go. So very sorry you are going through this.

Tell her she is pressurising you, there are no guarantees of more children and she is being hurtful to keep going on about it. I would warn her first (unless you have already) that if she makes another pregnancy related comment you will leave, taking her grandchild with you. If that doesn't put a stop to it then yes, follow through and leave.

Don't explain about your IVF. It really is none of her business.

Don't lie to her either.

Just quietly pack and leave.

You don't have to spend time with her if you don't want to. She'd drive me up the wall so I can quite see why you want to nope the hell out of there!

If you do go, do you think you would be able to walk in and say to her No, I am not pregnant. Just getting that out of the way now so we don't have to go through the usual palaver.

You simply tell her that you have had enough of her rude behaviour. That DH has repeatedly asked her to stop saying stuff and she has ignored that request, that it’s not a joke, it’s extremely hurtful and you are not going to put up with it anymore so are leaving.

I would also point out that if she to continues with this behaviour with you, the cousin or random people she knows she will end up with no contact with any of them. She has no idea what’s going on in their lives and should sto0 making such 8n se starve comments

then Imwould take my child, and DH if he wants to come and go home

Could dh tell her that there's a medical issue and another baby is probably not possible. Be super vague

I'd take her to one side myself and tell her that you while you understand she may be excited about potential grandchildren, you find the frequent comments stressful and irritating and that if it continues, you will be leaving. You don't need to yell, you need to be blunt and follow up on your warning if it happens again. I'd imagine she will have a big huff over it and make out she's the victim, but ignore that and carry on as normal. It's very rude of her.

Why would anyone tell an unnecessary lie like that? That's bonkers advice, she needs to be told that making any kind of comment about anyones fertility is an absolute no no.

You leave.
But you can do it firmly and nicely.
We need to go, because you aren’t listening to us, we’ve asked you nicely, told you nicely that what you consider friendly banter, I don’t. I appreciate you may disagree. But we’ll have to agree to disagree. Have a lovely Xmas, Toodoolooo!!!

This-

I wouldn’t mince my words. We are leaving as you are ruining any time with you as you make snide, unfiltered comments speculating on my body, whether or not we are pregnant etc and I’m sick and tired of it. I’m done.

In the past you’ve done it when we have had miscarriages etc we don’t speculate on your life and we have asked you not to do it to us. Yet you continue so we are leaving.

The choice to have no children, one or two is entirely up to each couple.

This. Tell her you aren't having any more and she needs to focus on the grandchildren she has.

I hope everything goes smoothly with the IVF and you do have your second child soon.

@mariannnnaa My goodness, this woman is so selfish and insufferable 😣.

I will never be a grandmother as son is adamant he doesn’t want children, and I accept that.

His life, his business!

Your MIL is really rude in my opinion.

Can your husband tell her to button her lip?

You just tell her it's absolutely none of her business and she is making you not want another child. Tell her if she hints again then she won't ever meet the next grandchild.

I had similar and with this pregnancy MIL hacked my phone and then told me she knew I was pregnant. I've not seen her since and only went public with the news at 20 weeks because of her.

I wouldn't just leave I would actually cut her out of my life completely tbh. If your DH can't deal with this I would read him the riot act and say you're not dealing with it any more.

Tell her to fuck off with it?

I would be asking her why she is so interested in you’re sex life
does she want you to tell her every time you and dh have a fuck and all the kinky shit you do 😂

but if you can’t do that just get up and leave and tell her why

Tell her you’re not having anymore and that your DH just had a vasectomy?

You don't need to mention infertility, just that you can't take any more comments about pregnancy. You don't have to give a reason for that.