To Tell SIL To Stop Claiming Things?

I'd disinvite them . Simple .

So…what happened OP!!

Have just come back to check for an update op.

What kind of craziness did she pull?

How's it going OP?

OP how was your Christmas? I've been shamelessly checking for updates! I hope you had a peaceful day with no nagging for things from SIL.

I think the best solution is just not to invite them next time! But for this year, I'd just grit my teeth & carry on my day. It's definitely a strange quirk!

Lits of poeopke have said it was too late to cancel but it's never too late to chuck someone out if they are spoiling the atmospohere. Usually it's someone whose tiddly but this woman is worse. So don't forget to let us know how you managed, please.

The guilty ones here are, in ordeer, your DH for inviting her knowing how awful she is, the BIL for not sorting her out as in 'if you won't promise not to embarras me, we aren't going. Lastly YOU for not stucking up for yoy
urself and tellingyour DH you wouldn't cook for this greedy bitch.

This is hilarious

Why don't you all just rip the piss? I would relentlessly so she feels ashamed

What's she done this year?

Just tell her "DOWN Girl"!
It works with our dog 😁

No, but at least we could understand the behaviour even if we wouldn't tolerate it. I too hate the trend of slapping mental illness on anything and everything that should be deemed a nasty behaviour/atttiude just to stop people calling it out; however, I also wouldn't want to take the opposite extreme of assuming everything bad is down to a character flaw and ignoring the possibility of circumstantial effects.

She sounds totally unhinged!

How's it going, OP?

I’ve been thinking about this.., probably too late, but you should get everyone primed to wait until she has her plate loaded up with food and a forkful ready to go into her grabby gob, then everyone to get their forks ready and ask her “Do you want that bit?”; “Are you going to have that?”; “Ooooh, that’s the best bit - don’t you want it?” And all stab at her plate. Then when she’s opening presents, everyone do much the same… pick up her presents and oooh and aaaah over them, saying “Oy, Sandra - these are your favourites aren’t they? Here you go… You don’t mind, do you Aunty Kath?” Turn the tables on her.

Does that make it OK?
Anyway, it's not waste she asks for, it's food people are eating and presents that OP is opening.
I hate all this shit that every bad behaviour must be because of a mental illness! Sometimes people are just dickheads, and they absolutely should be called on it!

Does she have some form of OCD, where she cannot stand the thought of waste and takes it upon herself to consume and use what she thinks might end up in the bin? Like an extreme form of advocating sustainability and minimal waste.

You need to talk to husband and BIL and explain this has actually kept you up all night on Christmas Eve due to the anxiety of her coming with her Scrooge attitude. That you can’t do this to your mental health for her to feel that her behaviour is not ok. She is a scrounger who is prob at home right now getting excited about the freebies coming her way. When she says don’t eat too much I want some to take home, you all need to say no and say no the host keeps the left overs, that is our boxingd day dinner considering I spent my Christmas Day cooking for you all.. so I can relax tomorrow.
with presents comment how rude that is, she puts the water works on just carry on and ignore her. She is a grown woman and can manage her own emotions and shitty attitude. Do not accept it. She is clearly giving you anxiety, and for me personally if someone messes with my mental health due to their behaviour then they are gone, life is too short to live in misery for someone who doesn’t give a 💩. Enjoy your day and walk out the room every single time she starts the 💩 or put on your own water show! Make a point of how much planning and effort and how much you looking forward to a stress cooking free day tomorrow. She asked for your presents… then just say can I not even have my gift either.. she will soon be shamed and really if they leave is it that much of a big deal? Enjoy your Christmas stand firm and if it causes problems remember you are not the one causing the problems she is. If she has too much to say then say the cost of living is high you stopped inviting her over due to not being able to pay and prepare her seconds she requests to take home, CF tbh. Be strong and relax remembering she is the one who has to change her ways don’t let her be spoiled in your home. The worst of it is she sounds the type that when she gets something for free or reduced price.. she probably brags about it to others, and possibly addicted to the adrenaline of it all. That is a HER problem not yours or anyone else’s. Merry Christmas and have a happy new year when it comes x (I’d also say to her she is being a bad example to the children you do not want them to act so spoiled)

Could you let us know how it goes today @Addyview ?
Not making light of your dilemma, but this saga has more bite to it than Cindy Beale being outed on Eastenders!
Your Scrooge SIL could get a job as the pantomime baddie. ‘That’s mine’ could be her catchphrase!

Hi You could not have made thus story up .
It is so buzarre. At the risk of sounding mean. Is this women suffering from some kind if Mental illness or trauma. Think phobia or trauma

If not she needs to be given a proper dressing down in front of evetybody. Who does she think she is? What an ahole.

How did the conversation go OP?

Hope you got a good resolution @Addyview and have an enjoyable Xmas Day.

Just say that you’ll be using all the leftovers yourselves. End of.

Why bother inviting them in the first place? Since it's clearly too late to cancel them coming, take her to the side and tell her that no one likes that she constantly does that, so please don't ruin Christmas by asking for everything or claiming everything. She's a grown arse woman for goodness sake!

You need to make it clear, but do so with humour, what she is doing is a little odd, but may have come from a childhood of need, or perhaps in her own clumsy way she is trying to show appreciation. Either way it's not ok to be on the scrounge constantly...

Wrap her up a plastic takeaway container of food, dessert all nicely packed up, another with gravy in a bag, plastic cutlery in a bag with a bow and that can be her present. All wrapped up in Christmas paper.