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The burden of being a man

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Boomboombooo · 22/12/2024 15:48

"Men will give up their happiness for their families but women will give up their families for their happiness."

My DH explaining the burden of being a man to me this morning.

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EarthSight · 22/12/2024 17:57

but women will give up their families for their happiness

Let this be a warning to you.

Your husband generally sees men as valiant, devoted knights who sacrifice all their happiness to the old ball & chain (aka 'The Wife').

It's resentful statement said by men who are angry that women have rights and the ability to divorce men. THE AUDACITY of it! They've never recovered from the fact that their wives aren't trapped anymore in sad or abusive situations like they were more likely to be decades ago, that they're not dragged back to the family home by the local religious leader.

I wonder if he's an Andrew Tate sympathiser.

snotathing · 22/12/2024 17:56

Let me guess, you'd just asked him to watch his own children for an hour while you 'enjoyed yourself' organising everything for Christmas?

SerafinasGoose · 22/12/2024 17:51

Mrsbloggz · 22/12/2024 17:50

Is that the best he can come up with? 😂

Moral philosopher he ain't 😬

johnyhadasister · 22/12/2024 17:51

Man literally gives only a portion of his income and nothing else. A woman gives up absolutely everything to even sacrificial extent. Go and read all the stories here that he just gave her allowance, was always to work, she raised 4 kids and paid for it all with his meagre allowance. She does not know how to divorce him. The thread is still on

Mrsbloggz · 22/12/2024 17:50

Is that the best he can come up with? 😂

Devilsmommy · 22/12/2024 17:50

Upstartled · 22/12/2024 16:24

Daddy Pig is completely downtrodden, diminished and mocked by his awful family, tbf.

Never thought of Peppa Pig as a incel text though 🤔😅

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So glad I don't let 2 year old DS watch it now. Imagine how he could have turned out😂😂😂

LifesTooShortForYourNonsense · 22/12/2024 17:48

Some people give up happiness, but some people… It’s all just people.

MaggieBsBoat · 22/12/2024 17:46

KeeKees · 22/12/2024 15:55

Everyone saying the other way round 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

So is no one happy in their families? I don't give up happiness for my family, I am perfectly happy in and with my family.

Good for you. A lot of people aren’t. You o my have to spend an hour on MN to realise that.

Hankunamatata · 22/12/2024 17:45

Well he will get his pearls of wisdom from peppa pig

viques · 22/12/2024 17:44

I think you ought to buy him an embroidery frame and some silks, by the time he has embroidered his little motto and embellished it with love hearts, violets and roses he will have realised that it is complete bollocks.

TheCanaryInThePurpleSkirt · 22/12/2024 17:44

Is he “Mr Topsy Turvey”? 😬

BarbaraHoward · 22/12/2024 17:43

Boomboombooo · 22/12/2024 16:12

Hung over, watching Peppa Pig with DC, whilst feeling sorry for Daddy Pig.

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🤣🤣🤣 have you managed to pick yourself up off the floor yet?

PyongyangKipperbang · 22/12/2024 17:41

AgnesX · 22/12/2024 17:29

Bit of a drama queen is he?!

He's hungover, sorry....ILL, so of course he is a drama queen! Remember Denise with her hangover in the Royle Family claiming she had a migraine, which coincidentally happened after her getting shit faced the night before? I am imagining that 😅

What he means, if my ex is anything to go by "I feel like shit, cant say anything because its my own fault, but I dont want to have to do anything for the family today and you are a selfish cow for not indulging me".

devilspawn · 22/12/2024 17:39

Which women are giving up their families? Is there a specified donation point for in-laws or can we just leave them anywhere?

pointswinprizes · 22/12/2024 17:30

Boomboombooo · 22/12/2024 15:48

"Men will give up their happiness for their families but women will give up their families for their happiness."

My DH explaining the burden of being a man to me this morning.

I think maybe he’s got that the wrong way round 🤣🤣🤣

AgnesX · 22/12/2024 17:29

Bit of a drama queen is he?!

Characterbuilding · 22/12/2024 17:29

I'm sorry to hear that your husband has had a blow to the head.
I hope he regains his senses before Christmas Day and the festive season isn't further ruined for you.

PyongyangKipperbang · 22/12/2024 17:28

What a moron.

In my (sadly extensive) experience, its usually the other way around!

CautiousLurker01 · 22/12/2024 17:27

Boomboombooo · 22/12/2024 15:48

"Men will give up their happiness for their families but women will give up their families for their happiness."

My DH explaining the burden of being a man to me this morning.

Bollocks. In my experience it’s the other way around!! Your DH needs to give his head a wobble.

JingleB · 22/12/2024 17:26

Boomboombooo · 22/12/2024 16:12

Hung over, watching Peppa Pig with DC, whilst feeling sorry for Daddy Pig.

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Daddy Pig is basically Homer Simpson - a bumbling incompetent who thinks he’s a grown up.

You husband is absolutely deranged if he thinks men are the sex that’s hard done by in a family.

Married men live longer and are healthier and happier than single men. Married women live shorter, unhealthier and less happy lives than single women. These patterns repeat across the West in study after study.

Just as boys do better in mixed sex schools and girls do better in single sex schools.

They benefit enormously from us, we do worse with them. The data don’t lie.

justasking111 · 22/12/2024 17:26

Upstartled · 22/12/2024 16:24

Daddy Pig is completely downtrodden, diminished and mocked by his awful family, tbf.

Never thought of Peppa Pig as a incel text though 🤔😅

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Daddy pig is a figure of fun that I found unpleasant when I saw it. Grandpa saves the day all the time.

hattie43 · 22/12/2024 17:20

Well my mum certainly gave up her family for her happiness . Walked out on us for another man .Thank god for the stability my dad offered .

ChristmasKelpie · 22/12/2024 17:20

Has he been on the Sherry ?

WooleyMunky · 22/12/2024 17:17

Boomboombooo · 22/12/2024 16:12

Hung over, watching Peppa Pig with DC, whilst feeling sorry for Daddy Pig.

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That is a really different take on Peppa Pig...