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The burden of being a man

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Boomboombooo · 22/12/2024 15:48

"Men will give up their happiness for their families but women will give up their families for their happiness."

My DH explaining the burden of being a man to me this morning.

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TheaBrandt · 22/12/2024 18:59

Is he taking the piss?

Noideawhatimdoing40 · 22/12/2024 18:57

KneesUnder · 22/12/2024 16:20

Didn’t know Laurence Fox had remarried.

😂😂😂

Noideawhatimdoing40 · 22/12/2024 18:54

Is your husband on glue?

NovemberMorn · 22/12/2024 18:36

Husbands (ime) normally make stupid statements like this when they are looking for a row.
Best ignore.

Wheresthebeach · 22/12/2024 18:36

Jesus wept he said that to kids! What a dick. Time for a talk and be clear that the sudden announcement that men are self sacrificing victims while women are selfish and more likely to abandon this families is misogynistic crap. More single parent families are female lead then those by men.

ConstanceM · 22/12/2024 18:33

True.

Scirocco · 22/12/2024 18:33

Lol.

alittlebitonthego · 22/12/2024 18:30

I'm confused how we're suppose to vote. Is it, the husband's comment is not unreasonable? Or is it, the op is not unreasonable for possible sarcasm?

If I was you Op, he'd be getting coal in his stocking.

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 22/12/2024 18:28

AAwwww!!!! That's SO cute! When my kiddos were little, we used to have "opposite" day too! We had dinner for breakfast, snacks for lunch and breakfast for dinner. "Yes" became "No" and we tried to see how much we could stay opposite.

But, isn't he a little old for that? Buy him a pregnancy test and when he wonders why, say, "You started opposite day, so I'm just playing along".

katter · 22/12/2024 18:26

PerambulationFrustration · 22/12/2024 18:23

It probably means that men think they are happy to remain free and single then give that up to have the burden of family.

Which is odd considering markiert men ate happier.
Probably because women do the majority of domestic while single men would actually stand up for themselves.

Nothatgingerpirate · 22/12/2024 18:24

Surely, if anything, it's the other way round.
That's why I started really liking men, after I hit about 42 years of age.
😂

PerambulationFrustration · 22/12/2024 18:23

It probably means that men think they are happy to remain free and single then give that up to have the burden of family.

lover99 · 22/12/2024 18:22

tell him from me to piss all the way off

GivingitToGod · 22/12/2024 18:21

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 22/12/2024 15:53

The TBH I’d have thought it was the other way around. I’d like to know how many men sod off with the OW and leave their wives and kids, compared to women who sod off with the OM and leave their husbands and kids.

I know only of the first category.

Ditto

DerekFaker · 22/12/2024 18:21

Well that's bollocks isn't it?

SleepToad · 22/12/2024 18:20

The only burdens I have as a man are, especially a working class one:
Everyone expects you to be brilliant at diy
Everyone expects you to be able to reverse

That's it...we get a pretty free ride.

Shit dad...well he busy working and is tried
Doesn't do housework...well his mum did everything
Fucks off with another woman....well she let herself go after having the kids

NonPlayerCharacter · 22/12/2024 18:16

Boomboombooo · 22/12/2024 16:12

Hung over, watching Peppa Pig with DC, whilst feeling sorry for Daddy Pig.

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Not Tiny Tim, not the deaths of Mufasa or Dobbie or Sirius Black or Jack Dawson, not Scarlett O'Hara declaring she'll never be hungry again. That one, with Daddy Pig. That's the most powerful moment in screen history that cuts right to the quick of the human condition.

Gggglinda · 22/12/2024 18:14

MyPithyPoster · 22/12/2024 16:04

I’ve only ever met one that did exactly that in my 50 years on the planet and she was so demonised and cast out by everybody that she had to relocate to the other side of the Midlands and not tell anybody that she had the first family.

And even when everybody was all grown up it was the first piece of information I was given about her as an introduction. This is Eileen. She fucked off and left her three kids.
How she avoided being burnt at the stake, I’ll never know

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This!

I've only met one too. Coincidentally from the midlands who is introduced as the woman who buggered off with a married man and left her 3 kids 😂

LoveRicePudding · 22/12/2024 18:11

If my DH said anything like that, he'd get something heavy flying at his head. He doesn't because he has a pretty good self-preservation instinct.

NordicwithTeen · 22/12/2024 18:09

Wow. I've yet to meet a man who does anything for a woman in distress (other than run a mile). The amount of exes I've looked after through thick and thin, sickness, job loss etc...pffft, your husband is on another planet.

Mrswhatsit40 · 22/12/2024 18:08

Well, I know many many men who have left their families to pursue their own (usually in the form of an OW) "happiness"

But in my 45 years I don't know any women who have left their family. I Know plenty of women who have forgone their own happiness in order to keep the family together though.

Maybe your dh is very young and naive?

YiayiaP · 22/12/2024 18:05

Eh?!

Sunnnybunny72 · 22/12/2024 18:04

He needs to look at the stats. Most LP aren't male. Not by a long way.

dottydodah · 22/12/2024 18:00

So men give birth then with the pain ,loss of earnings,BF and so on .I assume this is a kind of goady post. Men who choose to rape,kill and torture are giving their families happiness? Poor Sara Sharif ,her father was a piece of shit what happiness has he given ?

cakewench · 22/12/2024 17:59

He's assuming that day to day family chores and drudgery are a woman's dream, and we're just dragging the poor men down into it?

Interestingly, or not, it's almost always men who get to carry on with immersive, weekend-long hobbies such as golf and cycling, whilst leaving the women home to sort out cleaning the house and looking after the children. No thought to what they might be interested outside of that.

I know a woman who hasn't been 'out-out' since having her first child 15 years ago. Literally at all. I wonder how many men fall into that category?

(Before the NAM folk come for me, no this isn't my life, my husband knows I am an adult capable of having different interests etc. Though I am still generally expected to arrange meals if I'm gone, if I want our child to eat, because he regularly forgets that. somehow.)