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Dd choosing friend over our outing together

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Whatsthepointhey · 22/12/2024 15:40

Dd is 6.
She’s not been well for a while, but started to get better in the last few weeks.
I arranged to go to a special Christmas show as a treat, booked the tickets, we read the book and she got a fancy new dress. I was really excited about this special mother/daughter outing as it’s something I’ve always wanted to go to and to take dd felt really special.
I started to get ready earlier and was asking her to get dressed, whilst I did my make up and would do her hair. She was running around saying she was playing etc. I then heard her calling to her friend over the back, who comes to stay with her auntie some weekends.
She came running upstairs saying how she didn’t want to go to the show, wanted to play with this friend and could she please play with her as she didn’t want to go to the show, she said sorry and pleaded.
What would you have done?

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Babbahabba · 22/12/2024 17:18

@Lillixyng no because if you're ill, the best place is in bed resting.

biscuitsandbooks · 22/12/2024 17:16

Lillixyng · 22/12/2024 17:15

Punishing her because she is ill?

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Why is that a punishment?

If you're unwell, you need to be in bed, resting.

12purplepencils · 22/12/2024 17:15

With respect to her feeling sick for a while, it must be hard with a 6 yr old to tell if they really are feeling sick or they just don’t fancy something. I know it would have been with mine!

It all sounds like a total non event and very normal behaviour. The normal reaction would have been breezily to say no we’re off to the show, maybe you can play tomorrow.

her feeling ill is a separate thing and I would have probably tried going with the thought of leaving at the interval if she was genuinely ill.

biscuitsandbooks · 22/12/2024 17:15

Whatsthepointhey · 22/12/2024 17:00

How?

Played with her friend here, now gone over to hers, very happy

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I understand why you did it, but I think you're storing up problems for the future if you let your 6yo make the decisions.

Lillixyng · 22/12/2024 17:15

Babbahabba · 22/12/2024 17:14

She either goes to the show or goes to bed if she's ill. Those are the only two options.

Punishing her because she is ill?

TiramisuCheesecake · 22/12/2024 17:15

This is bizarre.

If the child is too ill to go to a show, she is also too ill to be off playing with children in their houses.

You are letting your 6 year old call the shots which is shit parenting however you try to slice it.

Namenamchange · 22/12/2024 17:14

I don’t understand what the problem with her going was, she’s little, it’s would be hard for her to imagine what a Panto is, but once she gets she will love it. Surely you just tell her she can play with her friend later.

I spend years getting children to leave the house, but once they were there it would take ages to get them to come home.

Babbahabba · 22/12/2024 17:14

She either goes to the show or goes to bed if she's ill. Those are the only two options.

JingleB · 22/12/2024 17:09

That seems a silly choice, but it’s moot now.

”No, we’re going to the panto now. Shall we ask Olivia to play here tomorrow?”

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 22/12/2024 17:08

I’d let her play with her friend and see if another child or friend wanted to join you. The special show sounds more like a treat for you OP than your DD.

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Whatsthepointhey · 22/12/2024 17:07

sonjadog · 22/12/2024 17:06

So, you don’t care if she infects this child then?

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Not a contagious illness
I’ve said that before

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NiftyKoala · 22/12/2024 17:07

sonjadog · 22/12/2024 17:06

So, you don’t care if she infects this child then?

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Exactly. And besides that good luck in the tween years op .

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 22/12/2024 17:07

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 22/12/2024 17:04

This is absolutely typical of a typical 6yr old 😂. It's what's happening in the moment , that's what they live in. She is absolutely normal in that respect.
I would take her to the show. If she wants to go home during it because she feels unwell then, come home. (As long as it's not too far away)
Enjoy

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Sorry, meant "normal", whatever that is😂

sonjadog · 22/12/2024 17:06

Whatsthepointhey · 22/12/2024 17:00

How?

Played with her friend here, now gone over to hers, very happy

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So, you don’t care if she infects this child then?

Cosyblankets · 22/12/2024 17:04

What did i just read?
She's six!
It's a non issue.
Mum can i play with my friend this afternoon?
No love we're going out you can play another time.
End of discussion

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 22/12/2024 17:04

Whatsthepointhey · 22/12/2024 15:57

Do you think this is normal child behaviour?

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This is absolutely typical of a typical 6yr old 😂. It's what's happening in the moment , that's what they live in. She is absolutely normal in that respect.
I would take her to the show. If she wants to go home during it because she feels unwell then, come home. (As long as it's not too far away)
Enjoy

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Whatsthepointhey · 22/12/2024 17:04

@OneLemonPanda With her father, no siblings

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How?

Played with her friend here, now gone over to hers, very happy

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TiramisuCheesecake · 22/12/2024 16:59

biscuitsandbooks · 22/12/2024 15:44

She's six! She doesn't get to decide.

Exactly. There is "what should I have said" scenario as it's so blindingly obvious.

You can go and play with Agatha another day. Go and get changed, we're leaving in 20 minutes.

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Lillixyng · 22/12/2024 16:56

In the usual run of things of course a parent would insist. However as she has been ill and this I part of a pattern I would let her have her way. This is a case of pick your battles. It would be awful if she was actually sick on the outing.