Mum being asleep when I arrive

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Confused228 · 22/12/2024 15:14

I don't see my mum that much because she lives really far away but she is staying in an air b and b over Christmas (I live in a tiny one bed so she can't stay with me unfortunately)
My mum has napped every day since we were kids.
I arrange to go and see her today, spoke at 9am this morning and arranged for me to arrive at 3pm and I get a message saying she will be asleep and can I let myself in.
AIBU to be a bit upset by this? I'm feeling crap today anyway and wouldn't you just make sure that if you invited people over you would be awake? She doesn't work or have any dependents or anything so can sleep any time.

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LoafofSellotape · 22/12/2024 15:19

My dad can't miss his nap at all or he gets unsteady and over tired later on in the day. Perhaps your mum is the same. Lots of folks need to nap.

Pinkissmart · 22/12/2024 15:18

She’s done it her whole life. She clearly needs it. Just let yourself in, read a book with a cup of tea. I don’t know why this is an issue- it’s a known entity

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Confused228 · 22/12/2024 15:18

Octavia64 · 22/12/2024 15:16

I mean a lot depends on context here.

She's 95 and frail and has come to see you and is staying on her own as you can't host - get over yourself

She's 50 and healthy - bit rude.

She's 60 and fit and well.

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Jumell · 22/12/2024 15:17

My mum napped all the time when I was growing up. Looking back it was weird

Octavia64 · 22/12/2024 15:16

I mean a lot depends on context here.

She's 95 and frail and has come to see you and is staying on her own as you can't host - get over yourself

She's 50 and healthy - bit rude.

LisaD1 · 22/12/2024 15:16

I’d just tell her to let me know when she’s awake and I’ll come over then. I couldn’t be arsed with waiting for her to wake up!

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