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For the women doing the lion share of Christmas - how do you enjoy it?

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Conat · 22/12/2024 14:06

Divorced this year. Not that I had much help with putting together Christmas when I was married.

I have my parents coming over in addition to my three kids (6-10).

My mum will bake treats and make puddings. And my dad will keep an eye on the turkey and carve. He’ll also buy the drinks and make sure we are all topped up.

I just have so much work to do - cleaning, table, cooking, shopping etc. Dad bought over a tree and the house is decorated but I’m sat on myself trying to convince myself to get up. And I just am so overwhelmed.

My mum has offered to come over and help but I don’t want to have to tell where every little thing goes and can be found.

Kids have helped me with washing and putting away clothes, tidying their bedrooms and just general decluttering.

How are you enjoying Xmas if you have the majority of the work to do?

OP posts:
hazelnutvanillalatte · 22/12/2024 14:27

I am separated with 3 dcs and I love it, but we have a very lowkey Christmas when it's just us. Get the tree and decorations out on the 1st and all decorate together, do activities like Christmas fair, ornament-making, and carols in the lead-up, and then have a relaxed Christmas Day with stockings, presents, and an easy Christmas meal (chicken and roast vegetables) and dessert. I enjoy doing the Christmas shopping and get all the bits we need in the week coming up to the day. If it's really stressful either with or without your parents helping would you think about what in general is stressing you out and whether you can make it easier?