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Do your DC give presents to the adults?

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ChristmasQuest · 22/12/2024 12:45

Wrapping all the gifts today. Will take the kids (3 and 6) to family for Christmas on Christmas Eve. They will be the only young kids there. There will be about 10 adults and 3 teenagers.

And struck me that my DC are about to be given a bunch of stuff but they haven't 'bought' anyone else anything.

I got them keyrings to give to each other but although I've bought plenty of the adults presents, I haven't got anything from the kids to all the adults there.

Do you get presents from the young kids to the adults? Am I being OTT to think I might go get something with them today so they actually they are just receipitants of stuff?

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biscuitsandbooks · 22/12/2024 12:54

I think three is a little young, but from the age of about five, I would be taken by my dad to pick out something for my mum, and vice versa.

From about nine, I was given money and sent into a local shop to pick something out myself, and then from about 12 I was expected to budget from my pocket money to buy a little gift for my parents.

My extended family were all overseas so we never did gift-giving.

Commonsense22 · 22/12/2024 12:53

Getting to shop for our own Christmas presents was a big part of Christmas excitement for me growing from maybe the age of 10.
We'd bring our picket money and my parents would give us 45 min to roam in the supermarket/ shopping centre. Then they'd drive us back.

At first it was literally 1 pound gifts then a bit more as we grew. It's lovely to get involved in giving.

However if you're the one buying the gifts I don't see the point.

evtheria · 22/12/2024 12:52

Generally no, but my DS10 gives:
• a little edible treat (fancy chocs) to the grandparents
• a gift to his dad - I take him shopping for it (and DP does vice versa)

We've also done a big tray of baked goods when we were seeing lots of people & kids on the day, DS loved making them and they were nearly all gone that day!
EG. Classic choc chip cookies, 'peppermint bark', fudge, Christmassy breakfast bars (flapjacks with spices, blood orange icing drizzle, and nuts), toasted spicy nuts mix in a glass jar with hand decorated label...

Miloarmadillo2 · 22/12/2024 12:49

I wouldn’t if you have already got presents for others from your family. As they get a bit older introduce them choosing their own small presents for you, DH, their siblings.

Papetube · 22/12/2024 12:47

As long as there are gifts from you as a family to those giving to the children, I think that's fine.

DangerMouseAndPenfoldx · 22/12/2024 12:47

They do now that they are older teens, but when they were younger we would give from the family rather than from individuals.