Non-binary colleague using disabled toilet

Did you understand what I wrote? That gender dysphoria is a mental health issue. Someone who is 'trans' will not be cured of their dysphoria by transitioning, just as someone with anorexia is not cured of anorexia by withholding food as they desire.
Trans people are asking to be cured by becoming what they think they are. But they are not that thing (a member of the opposite sex) and we would do better to counsel them and discover the origin of their dysphoria so that it can at least be made bearable. That may mean dressing as the opposite sex. It cannot mean entering the opposite sex's spaces, places, prizes, refuges, prisons, hospital wards etc. The solution is third spaces.

Sorry my mum said I have to go to bed now .But thanks you helped me pass an hour of my school holidays MERRY XMAS

it’s a made-up group? What? Being trans?

Wow. Just wow.

Yes but the point of my post was that people don't always talk to these things about their colleagues. Maybe they do have a condition, and they just don't want to divulge it to OP so they've given another reason for using the facilities?

Or, most likely they don't. But we shouldn't be too quick to judge people using disabled facilities just because they don't "look" like they need them.

Personal attack?

The post was spot on.

Yes well you would know all about brainwashing. It's not a minority group it's a made-uppery group. There fixed it for you

you don’t know what you are talking about. Please don’t brainwash your daughter with wrong and discriminatory information about a minority group.
Trans people don’t need to be “cured” of being trans. It’s perfectly fine for them to be trans . The problem isn’t them.

Also OP's boss can't know if the person has a disability..

Maybe he called her transphobic because she singled out a nonbinary coworker.

I mean... Given this is an imaginary scenario by an op obsessed with toilets for disabled people, it feels silly to try and reach deeper into what she said.

There are no properly peer reviewed studies that support a gender spectrum. Gender is a social construct all about social expectations.

I had this same conversation with my DD yesterday. You cannot change sex. Sex is not a state of mind. Same and opposite sex attraction is a real thing. The mental illness of gender dysphoria - thinking you are in the wrong body is a crude way of explaining it - is real. But having gender dysphoria is not cured by transitioning. We do not cure annorexia by allowing someone to starve themselves to death, we do not cure body dysphoria where a person insists that a limb must be removed by removing the limb. Gender dysphoria is of the same ilk.

You’re a fucking rude arrogant person ,someone insults you and you pull the I’m disabled card ,but you insult my grammar all you want because I do nt care

Tbf you steamed in and insulted the OP in the first instance.

There were 350 trans people murdered in 2024.
No, there are not more trans people who murder than are murdered. Majority were under 25. Violence again trans people has increased by four times in the last year.

And the majority of these were Latin American sex workers. The risks they face don't remotely correlate to the UK or Europe.
I also suspect that most of the murders were homophobic in origin.

I mentioned to my boss that I didn’t think this was appropriate and got accused of transphobia and threatened with discipline.

Reasonable response.

I was made to feel like I was being offensive and discriminatory for bringing it up.

you were.

Honestly OP let your colleague relieve themself in peace. I just can’t imagine being such a busy body that you felt the need to raise this with your boss.

Don't try what?

Someone said there were more trans murderers than trans people murdered.

That's incorrect.

No need to be rude during this conversation.

100% agree @DaringLion with your post at 20.36, and a couple of people have the nerve to say I was being rude purely for saying how ironic it was that that poster attacked your spelling. I'm ignoring these people now. I see what's going on.

Yeah we all know that stat. Pretty much all in Brazil where murder of anyone is endemic and murder of prostitutes even higher. Trans are less likely to murdered than an ordinary bog standard woman. Don't try that

320 trans people were murdered between 2022-2023

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jamiewareham/2023/11/13/beaten-stabbed-and-shot-320-trans-people-murdered-in-2023/

There were 350 trans people murdered in 2024.

No, there are not more trans people who murder than are murdered. Majority were under 25. Violence again trans people has increased by four times in the last year.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jamiewareham/2024/11/16/350-transgender-people-murdered-in-2024-will-the-violence-ever-end/

That's a ridiculous statement.

Yeah you are. Disabled people use tools because of their disability. Someone who tells you they are disabled and that they have to use speech to text, means they don't do it through choice. Your 'clever' remarks are plain abusive. But that's par for the course in trans activism..steam roll anyone in your way eh? Everyone is fair game

Don't rely on a grammar and spellchecker - they are frequently wrong because they do not take into account the sense.

The person in question IDs as non-binary and this is why they do not want to use the toilet appropriate to their sex. They have not said they have any other problems. Most women over the age of 45 have urinary problems, e.g. they can no longer hold urine very well (hence the market for heavy duty 'panti-liners') so they should have access to disabled toilets, presumably. Just going off piste there.

I'm not being abusive. I'm simply saying how ironic it was that that poster attacked someone's spelling and grammar, and then went on to post a repeated word. Merely an observation.

You're reaching so far there that you can touch the moon!

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