Non-binary colleague using disabled toilet

And as usual, people with real disabilities are bottom of the pile compared to the "special people".

Sounds like you disapprove of them and want to make some kind of point about this. How much time are they even using in this bathroom? Unless they do actually have some kind of health issue, probably no more than a few minutes a day. Just leave them alone and get on with your job.

Anyone can buy a radar key from Amazon

If the employee toilets are single cubicles then why not just make them unisex to start with? Honestly it seems nobody can win now! The person has a perfectly reasonable solution, using the only designated unisex toilet and you are moaning ... no wonder employers are opting for the unpopular unisex toilets all around approach. And anyway, it would be illegal not to have a disabled toilet for staff use so it must be for everyone

To the correct toilet according to their sex?
Non-binary is their gender identity, ok, nice, but they still have binary sex underneath.

Moreover, it looks from the updates that there is one employees M and one employees F toliet accessed from the corridor, not a room with semi-separated cubicles, so going for disabled one in this case is just a performance.

Think OP tried making that suggestion and failed so next solution?

I could see your point if there was a huge queue of disabled people waiting to go in. Probably wouldn’t have even given it a thought to report it though.

Mind your own business. You have no entitlement to intervene and no right to know your colleague’s disability status (or lack of). The fact you’re so interested in which toilet someone uses is frankly a bit creepy.

(I have a radar key, and a child with an invisible disability which necessitates using disabled facilities on occasion. I’m extremely bored of other people with no skin in the game policing which toilet we use.)

If they have a radar key they are entitled to use the toilet. For a few minutes a day does it really matter, are you the pee monitor.

Hang on, your place of work only has an accessible toilet for customers, so they’re actively discriminating against potential employees who have a disability, along with customers who have children, yet your colleague is the issue?

Of course you're BU.

Are they not called 'Accessible Toilets' rather than disabled now?

You employer should change the single toilets from male/female to just toilets by removing the signage . This will allow anyone to use each toilet.

This isn't on your colleague to resolve.

Well they can’t win can they? Someone is going to have something to say whatever toilet they choose to use.

It’s an accessible toilet, not a disabled toilet. Get over it.

Also, how many times are they going to the loo? Enough to cause a queue for others? I mean, what does this really look like day-to-day?

If the others are single occupancy then yes your colleague is being a dick. And could literally just use either

I find the concept of non binary really annoying, and borderline offensive. But generally I would prefer them to use the disabled than say a man using the women's. But if single occupancy then they are just attention seeking aren't they?

You would have an issue with a man using the ladies, and with a woman using the men's toilets. If someone is non-binary they consider themselves both/neither, so the only really appropriate place for them to use is the only unisex loo available.

I also notice you said "employee male and female toilets, customer male and female toilets and one customer disabled toilet.". Surely you should have said "and one disabled toilet for both"?

You are being ridiculous.

As the parent of a disabled child, I'm begging people to not use disabled toilets unless you are disabled. My son is 12 with a mental age of 14 months and therefore still in nappies, but no understanding about waiting and it's so difficult when disabled toilets are full of people who just think it's a nicer experience but could easily use the regular ones (no, you can't always tell to look whether someone is disabled. But sometimes people just say it openly and it's so selfish).

They are using the toilet they feel most comfortable in. I don’t see what the problem is and I certainly wouldn’t have reported this. Somehow this post has made me think of the film Hidden Figures.

Why are you ok with young families who on the face of it may have no disabilities using the disabled toilet? Also if it's where baby changing facilities are, why doesn't your work have these in other toilets?

This is a terrible sentence, could mean either two opposite things! That they do have a disability in fact, or that they don’t feel they have a disability.
honestly I couldn’t get worked up about this. I am glad they don’t feel comfortable in the toilets of the gender they identify as, more of this please. While you’re seething, think of disabled people. Who finally got bathrooms only to have baby change tables put in and them become parent and baby too, and now they are the general third toilet. Go do something positive for disabled people in your job today :)

of course they do, but that didn't seem to be what the thread was about.