Non-binary colleague using disabled toilet

Trans men would use the make toilet, not the female.

Stay out of it.
Adjust your thinking to that toilet being for disabled, baby changing and …. The uncomfortable.

Everyone is ‘nonbinary’; nobody conforms entirely to regressive sex stereotypes. I never wear make-up or heels, live my life mostly in jeans, work in a male dominated profession. I am still perfectly capable of using facilities dedicated to my sex.

@Princessconsuelabananahammock9 That's not about a disabled toilet so it's not relevant to the thread.

Just because you want to give away access to the disabled toilet doesn't mean you can speak for all disabled people. That toilet is a right we fought for, it is hard won and it is ours. It's not something that anyone should be able to just decide to use. People who need it really need it and often can't even get into a normal toilet at all. For some people with disabilities it is a "better" option (more private, less embarrassing, etc) but for some of us it's literally the only one! We shouldn't have to share it with people who are not disabled whatsoever.

@angrymenopausal because some people complain about anything. This post being a good example. What has them telling anyone got to do with anything? Same can be said for being disabled. Not everyone tells people and despite what some people like to think no you can't always tell and no someone won't always tell you.

I hope you mean mixed sex. Not everyone believes in genders and even the Scottish government says sex and gender are totally different.

OP - if the male and female toilets are single cubicles then they should NOT be using the disabled toilet and your boss is very very wrong. Maybe a solution with your toxic boss is to get the male toilet turned into a mixed sex one. So mixed sex, female, and disabled.

My partner once used the woman's bathroom in his office building. He needed to go and the men's was on the other side of the building.

Someone from another department wrote a letter complaining about him being in there and how unsafe he made her feel.

According to many comments on here he was in fact using the correct bathroom as a trans man.

They are not “disabled toilets” they are accessible toilets. They are not just for “disabled” people, whatever your definition of that is.

Anyone can ask for the key to an accessible toilet. You do not need to be disabled to access an accessible toilet and any Costa or KFC which refuses an able-bodied person would be in the wrong to do so. Anyway, locking disabled toilets came about due to junkies, not able-bodied people who needed a pee.

Their gender has nothing to do with occupying the disabled toilet. Their identity isn't a disability.

The person who did it to me explicitly used those words.

Disabled toilets are for disabled people - full stop.

‘Non-binary’ individuals should use the toilet that corresponds to their biological sex. It's that simple.

It's not "weird" to want the toilet for disabled people, that disabled people fought for as a legal right and key access need, to be available to us when needed. It isn't just another lol for anyone who fancies it at any given time. Remember we often cannot use the "normal" loos and this person can but is choosing not to. I'm not criticising them for their identity, that is their own business, but they have no right to use the disabled toilet.

Why would people complain if they use the toilet appropriate to their sex?
The only reason others know if someone is non-binary is because they've told them!

Use the toilet appropriate for their sex

The OP, I think, feels that it would be wrong if a disabled person couldn't use the toilet because it was occupied by someone who could use one of the non-accessible ones. This person isn't justified in taking up the accessible toilet.

If they are neither male, female or disabled they should go outside and piss in a bush.

This is the world you live in now. We have had to respect other people’s religious beliefs for centuries. Now it’s gender beliefs.

Don't be ridiculous. They have a sex and are perfectly able to use the toilet that corresponds to their sex.

Non-binary is about their belief in their gender identity. Toilets are about your biological sex. Sex and gender identity are different.

There is no coherence in them refusing to use the toilet that corresponds to their sex and it is extraordinarily entitled to take over the facility dedicated to people with a disability protected characteristic that they do not have.

Yes they are taking away immediate toilet access from disabled people, plus even further contributing to the already unfortunate perception that the disabled toilet is just conveniently there to be exploited by anyone who fancies it. That can and does have a massive negative impact. It's easy to say that's nothing when you're not affected.

What does science say exactly? Apart from the tiny minority of people with DSD where does science say there is a third way that isn't xx or xy?

Zero, thats the amount of people doing this .
They do it because they have MH issues not because people don't look "female" enough.

If they aren’t disabled they shouldn’t be in the disabled toilet.

What a load of nonsense. People who don’t feel it necessary to conform to regressive sexist stereotypes have existed forever. Calling this “non-binary” is navel gazing bullshit.

Can you define non-binary without using regressive sexist stereotypes?