Non-binary colleague using disabled toilet

Same!

In some LAs there is a register. HTH

In some LAs there is, actually.

6Disability(1)A person (P) has a disability if—(a)P has a physical or mental impairment, and(b)the impairment has a substantial and long-term adverse effect on P's ability to carry out normal day-to-day activities.

By that defintion I do not have a disability. I have a condition which occasionally means it is beneficial to use the accessible toilet.

which I can 100% understand, but in terms of non physical disabled people using the toilet, non-binary people using it as a gender-neutral option are going to be a tiny tiny tiny percentage. The vast majority are going to be people with babies that need to be changed, or with young children they don't want to leave alone outside, or people without any additional needs who don't see the point in waiting when there's a toilet not being used.

so ONE NB person seems to be an odd place to draw the line. If rules around disabled toilets should become stricter so not everyone gets to use it then places first need to make male and female toilets bigger, and with baby change facilities.

"It's a disabled toilet that is only for disabled people and NOBODY else" is a clear statement that's hard to argue with.

"It's a disabled toilet that people who aren't disabled are allowed to use in special circumstances, but I don't think your special circumstances should count" (which is OP's point) is not.

@Scabetty If you're not disabled, don't use our facility.

So do something illegal to make person feel better?

But I may desperately need the toilet too and they would have to wait if a baby was being changed or another person with disabilities was in there.

Plenty of anecdotes from people who have had the same experience. Just plain transphobia, not a mental health issue.

@Hotflushesandchilblains yes, it's definitely the "victim role" to speak the factual truth about my severe illness. Sorry you can't deal with being told that some people have real needs that don't just go "pouff" at the mere mention of the lovely word 'inclusive'.

Disabled loos are for the physically disabled. Why do they have to wait to use the loo because someone has a completely made up condition? What a mental thread

Why not suggest to management to get rid of the male and female signs?

Also, I don't think I would be bothered them using the disabled toilet. They propably use it few times a day and unlikely to cause hardship to customers.

But in this case they’re not disabled and the commenter didn’t say that non-binary people can’t be disabled

@IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle Since you ask, I will answer. Firstly, I never ever challenge people in person about using the disabled loo as I always prefer to give the benefit of the doubt and would hate to distress someone.

In my view, any major illness absolutely counts as a significant disability. I would say that if someone has a diagnosis of IBD but they are feeling totally well at a given time and in general "normal", their disease is fully in remission, and they are living a completely normal life other than maintenance treatment, but have few to no symptoms, then yes I would feel that at a moral level it was somewhat wrong for that person to use the disabled loo as presumably they would be feeling well enough (at that point in time) to use a regular one. But if they felt any need, of whatever sort, to use it, then I would feel they fully had the right to, whether urgency, needing more privacy, frequency, dealing with bleeding away from the public, etc. I could also potentially see an argument for less footfall being safer if immunocompromised.

Whereas if someone's argument was "I feel gender incongruence being in the bathroom for my sex", then no I would not personally consider that a significant disability. I realise other people would, but that is just my opinion.

I've reported the post because this poster seems disingenuous.

Why write one post and claim you can't understand why parents would be asked to be considerate of the disabled and then another post where a colleague isn't being considerate of the disabled.

The whole thing just smells like its posted to drum up hate and divide for sensationalism.

The OP didn't say that.
The individual is so special that a stick figure on a single occupancy self contained toilet triggers them.
They need a third one with the stick figure equivalent of Grace Jones and David Bowie on the door. Then they could see on peace, bless them.

I think that you should be precious enough to think that you and other disabled people should be the only people to access the disabled toilet. Baby change, etc could be somewhere else.
There is no good reason to make it more difficult for disabled people to get out and about these days.

OP previously posted about using the disabled bathroom in KFC for changing her baby, and getting told to put the change table back up.

Apparently she didn't know you should do that in order for disabled people to have more room and was upset there wasn't a sign telling her to.

She obviously has some sort of issue with toilets, and how would she even know if this colleague was disabled?

Well said. The word 'inclusive' is starting to make my toes curl. It's ok - and in circumstances absolutely necessary- for spaces and places to be exclusive of certain groups/people.

Exclusive isn't and shouldn't be a bad word.

@DaphneduMaureen You might want to actually read your link 🤣

Of course there is somewhere for them to go. Non binary people are either male or female, like everyone else.

You are being discriminatory because you're bringing up something which has zero effect on you

That is not what being discriminatory is. Quite the opposite, as an employee she to ensuring her employee is being proactive in ensuring disabled employees and customers are not discriminated against. Something they have a duty to do.

You said

If the colleague has a significant disability then it's fine for them to use that loo, but for the purposes of the thread I am taking OP at her word that they don't.

You and the OP have no idea about this. You would have no idea looking at me. What is "a significant disability" ? Do you get to decide if mine is "significant" enough to meet your criteria?

Oh stop with the victim role. I have a disability. End of. But hey, carry on feeling offended. I wont be engaging with it.

It's actually a disabled toilet that some other people use, and are generally tolerated using, but the more that there is constant pushback against it being for disabled people, the more negative our experiences become, only no one cares because if anything they think we have too many concessions already and want to take this away too (nothing special for you gross crips!).