Non-binary colleague using disabled toilet

Well, you’re determined to think so. I say live and let live so long as they’re not hurting anyone, which they’re not.

Define it though?
Everyone is actually male or female.

I think this is the solution really. Disabled people should all declare themselves trans/non binary. Then watch how everyone falls over themselves to make transport, public spaces, jobs and toilets suddenly accessible.

Yes I can see people are reading it differently regardless of intention which is one of the joys of MN!

No they’re not, unless they are keeping disabled people waiting for ages, which isn’t the case or I’m sure the OP would have said so.

Didn't take long at all for somebody to turn up with the classic gotcha of comparing black women to men. Classy!

Exactly- but then lots of people on here would have to find something else to be performatively offended about and then where would we be?

So it is just a choice? In other words performative.

I was asking the poster, but I can see people are reading it either way from the comments!

According to The Equality Act I don't have a disability. You're the one who has said it's a negative term. It's a statement of fact, I don't have a disability or am disabled.

Disability
(1)A person (P) has a disability if—
(a)P has a physical or mental impairment, and
(b)the impairment has a substantial and long-term adverse effect on P's ability to carry out normal day-to-day activities.

Should I tell a lie to be able to make occasional, necessary use of the accessible toilet.?

They're not special, but they are selfish if they are using an accessible toilet when they have no need for one.

It’s a choice that people are absolutely within their rights to make.

Eh?

Why are you being so nosey and s**t stirring?

If the employee toilets are single cubicles then arguably there is no need to label them m or f and just have them available for everyone. Problem solved.

Please define nonbinary.

Is this person actually male or female, because that answers what toilet they should be using, unless they also have an actual disability.

All this stuff about non-binary people being performative and thinking they’re ’special’ speaks volumes about how nasty some people on here are.

My view is that the disabled cubicle can be used by the able bodied provided a disabled person doesn't need it. So if there is a line, the disabled person goes to the head of the line for the disabled toilet.

Hopefully the employee doesn't need to be in the toilet for a prolonged length of time.

The real issue is the lack of disabled toilets. One of my DC uses a wheelchair and quite often ends up waiting for ages outside a disabled toilet because the disabled person inside needs a long time to take care of business - transferring from chair, undressing, dressing, transferring back to chair, washing hands.

As are we all

They are, yes.

@FionaSkates

Did you just refer to the person in question as ‘it’?

I don't read it like that, I read 'it' to mean the situation in the same way someone would say 'at least it isn't an able bodied person using a disabled toilet'

No, they are referring to the situation as ‘it’ as situations don’t have sexes.

Maybe they have a disability they don’t wish to disclose? Some disabilities are hidden.

Either way it’s none of your business and you shouldn’t have poked your nose in.

It’s also better than them inflicting themselves on the wrong toilet and upsetting other people.

@verysmellyjelly
If you had read the thread, you would see that this affects disabled people and that we care. It's sad that you think that doesn't matter.

OP said they saw the non binary person use the toilet and that's it, so in this case there's literally no proof anyone got affected because she never saw any disabled person waiting for their turn.

Also fact that we don't really know if the person is disabled or not.

@Coconutter24
But in this case they’re not disabled and the commenter didn’t say that non-binary people can’t be disabled

OP says they're not disabled, assumption, not fact, as far as we know they might have a invisible disability.

And before anyone tries to say otherwise, OP is clearly not friends with the person, and as proven by many posters one can have invisible disability and nobody would know.

@PurpleSparkledPixie
Transmen are biologically female.
Transwomen are biologically male.

They are still the same sex they had at birth. It really isnt that difficult to understand.

Can you please clarify your post? Because if I understand correct you want trans to use the bathroom of their birth sex.

But that opens a big issue, because by your logic a transmen, who depending on how far enough they're in the transition would look like a man, should then use the women bathroom because it's their birth sex?

I'm 100% sure women wouldn't like that, the logic that trans should only use the bathroom of their birth sex simply doesn't work either because the issue is not black and white.