'Weird' for not having piercings?

of course it's a matter of personal choice, nobody has suggested otherwise?

OP asked if it was odd that she didn't, not whether she should.

It depends on what is meant by 'odd' - if using 'odd' as a synonym for 'unusual' (e.g. odd one out) then yes, it is unusual because most women in their 40s do have pierced years. That's just a factual observation.

However the friend describing it as 'super weird' is a bit rude, as that's starting to lean towards a judging/moralistic response.

I've never had pierced ears. Thinking about it neither has my mum.

Oooh this has happened to me many times. I’ve had my ears pierced 3 times and all 3 times ended up in A&E as it went wrong (I did learn my lesson the third time haha!) - but many people have commented it’s weird I don’t have them pierced. I don’t see why but there you go!

I have pierced ears but havnt worn earrings in like 15 years and rarely before that. Tbh they might have grown over, havnt tried!
I never got on with them, tend to feel heavy.and horrible and make my ears red and sore.
So even if having them pierced is usual it is odd not to notice or check if a family member wears a particular jewellery before gifting it. I have fingers, but never wear rings so would be a strange gift from anyone who knows me.

She was probably embarrassed at her own faux pas in buying pierced earrings for someone who doesn't have pierced ears (that is something a family member really ought to have known, or at least been able to check), and was trying to cover up her embarrassment by saying that it is weird to not have pierced ears.

Should add, slim figure, high heels, short skirts, alcohol, all that is behind me
Give me my sofa, tea and a book anytime. Paid bills and some food, nature walks and historic places to visit. Does that make me weird. LOL

ah also, living as a child in a resort with all inclusive hotels and pools stinking of horrible bleach put me off forever from that kind of idol people worship also

I pierced my ears twice but they grew back twice. I loved wearing earrings but not now....will not try new ones just yet , actually never. Make up, jewellery, shaving, all gone for me

My Mum never did, my sister (50) never has. I've acouple of friends (50s and 60s) whi never have, and another couple whose holes healed over.

I was desperate to have mine done around age 13 because everyone at school had them. (Like everyone else had TVs in their rooms and got more pocket money and were allowed to stay up late.) Mum said I could have it done at 18 if I still wanted. I sometimes wore clip-ons and screw-ons, but they're not that comfortable.

At 18, I was swimming most days, and it just did not fit in. Then it would have stopped me giving blood. So at 30, when I couldn't give blood because of travelling in malarial countries, I had them done in Australia.

When I got home, Mum, who had consistently refused to let me have them done as a teenager, said, "oh, they really suit you. I should have made you have them done years ago." My eyes may have rolled...

I think most of my friends have their ears pierced, I'm struggling to think of a woman who doesn't although my mum does not. I'm mid 40's and a lot of my friends have multiple piercings. But I do not think you are odd for not having pierced ears. Your friend was probably embarrassed and earrings cannot be returned.

Well, on a bell curve, you would be an outlier. That’s okay though, it’s normal and why bell curves fit pretty much all situations.

Not unusual at all. Mine were pierced as a teen, but they’ve been healed/closed now for about 20 years. My eldest has enough piercings for the entire family though!

I had my ears pierced as a young teenager but they never healed so I took them out after a short while. I’ve just now at 38 had my lobes pierced again to see if I fair any better this time round. Never felt the desire to until now after my 11 year old has hers done with a wonderful piercer and they healed beautifully. Made me want to have another go!

My mum has always had her ears pierced but me and my sister were never bothered. At 40 my sister still doesn’t have hers done.

I hate jewellery, never wear it, don’t have my ears pierced and only wear a wedding ring.
The number of people - even close family members - who still buy me earrings or necklaces is mind boggling.
i think what annoys me is that I always think carefully when buying a present for someone and get something I know they’ll like. So it’s just thoughtless.

I don't have mine done and I have been bought earrings as presents on a number of occasions. I just say thank you but my ears aren't pierced.

I'm in my 60s and have never had pierced ears ; my DM never did either. DSis did but they closed up years ago. It is culturally normal in some ethnic groups and age groups but far from weird not to be pierced .

Nope. Never fancied it. Weird and proud,

Sorry but I think it was odd of you to gush over them and say you'd keep them for a special occasion. She made a mistake, which is understandable as the vast majority of women do have pierced ears, but you lied (unless the special occasion was for someone else's birthday present, but she couldn't have possibly taken it that way). Why not say, "Oh I'm really sorry but I don't have pierced ears. Thank you for the lovely thought but please keep them for someone else"?

I don't have mind done, my sisters and daughters do, I just never wanted to, I agree we are the minority and in a sense "culturally weird" but it's odd to use that word for someone else! it was probably a tom boy thing for me as well / I could never be bothered as I got older.

I think in general people would just assume I have - I wear quite a bit of jewellery now, I have been given earrings a couple of times, and tried like you just to say "thank you" and re gift later luckily no one tried to make me try them on.

It sounds like she was embarrassed for buying you something which you couldn’t use and tried to ‘blame’ you.

I had my ears pierced as a very young child. Thanks mum. 🤨 I haven’t wore earrings since I had a choice, probably from when I was about 12. I know lots of women who don’t have pierced ears and more who do, but don’t wear earrings.

I think it's unusual but that's not the same as odd.

When I was younger, I had 4 piercings in each ear and 1 in my nose. I can't be bothered with jewellery these days and haven't worn earrings for years so the holes have closed up.

If anyone gave me earrings for a present, I'd struggle to put them in.

I didn't get mine done until about 26 (just for my wedding) but they've closed up because I took them out when I had a baby (she was grabby!).

Did get cartilage done at 19 but don't use it.

I wouldn't buy someone earrings unless I knew they wore them. Get a necklace instead.

I am 55 and don’t have pierced ears, lots of people assume i do….no idea why as i have very short hair, my ears are completely exposed 😀 and ive know most of these women for years

dd was 19 when she got her ears done and they made a real fuss of her in the peircing studio 😀

This. Not every woman has pierced ears or wants them. She ought to have checked. If she knew you at all, she would have been aware.

Well she's plain wrong - lots of us don't have pierced ears!

I'm 46 and don't have any piercings. I think I'm one of the only people I know in my friend/colleague circle of a similar age to not have pierced ears.