To tell them they can’t drink in their own home?

No one can be this entitled. Oh my word .

I'm calling reverse.
Noone is thinking this is reasonable.

No, that's not a reasonable ask.

If your family are prone to aggression then you need to consider how much you want your toddler around them.

Good point. Either way the person doing the asking is overstepping.

You're absolutely beyond unreasonable.

If they were babysitting then fine but even then you cannot insist they abstain entirely! You can instead choose not to let them babysit.

But they're not babysitting. You're there, he's your responsibility. If you don't like how people are behaving, then you're free to leave, surely?

I actually don't like drunk people around my children either and if people started being noticeably under the influence, slurry, loud, repetitive etc, then I'd take mine home as it makes me really uncomfortable. But there's a world of difference between having a couple, and being roaring drunk and belligerent.
You cannot dictate to people in their own home like this.

I'm not a heavy drinker, but I like a few drinks over Christmas. If I received your message I'd be astonished to be honest and tell you not to be so bloody ridiculous and entitled.

I too, am a non drinker and think OP is mental.

I actually think this is a reverse. I’m not sure a genuine poster would have worded the title like that.

I think this is a you issue and you need to walk with your feet rather than asking people to change their otherwise fairly reasonable behaviour.

I’m a recovering alcoholic and even I would never dream of asking people to not drink alcohol in their own home around me or my dc. If I felt it was going to be an issue and my dc would be unsafe or I would feel uncomfortable, I would put a boundary in place and make alternative plans. Drunk people do annoy me, but I just up and leave if they get particularly obnoxious.

Absolutely ridiculous choice. Most normal ppl enjoy the odd drink over the festive season.
Your toddler will not know or care what adult individuals drink or not drink,

You can't dictate, same as if they smoked inside. It would be on you to remove the children to a different room or not to go there at all and possibly invite them to yours where you could enforce a no drinking and smoking rule.

I've never smoked / vaped and never drank when sole looking after DD. But it still stands that you can't control other people's environments.

You dont get to say what others do, when its not you're home. If you want things your way - stay at home, oh and btw I am a non drinker, before you say I must need alcohol.

If they get aggressive when drunk then I wouldn't go. You can't dictate terms in someone else's house.

Generally speaking (for example with my own family) I’d say I’d be very unreasonable. However my family don’t act aggressive or cause arguments etc when they’ve had a drink. Either way I would probably say you can’t dictate what they do but I would be prepared to leave if anything happened to make you feel uncomfortable with baby (eg loud arguments, fights, being rowdy etc) - that is totally up to you

If their behaviour is that bad, OP should keep her child at home, surely?

You can't ask them not to drink in their own home. If they have form for being drunk and aggressive then just don't go.

I’d tell you not to bother coming if you tried to dictate what I did in my own home: you’re responsible for your child so you stay sober but I’d not be impressed at it being forced on me!

Yes you are unreasonable.

You are there to look after your son and if you dont want him around alcohol then you should stay home.

You cant dictate what others do on their Christmas day in their own home

Dont stay there OP if it is an issue for you, you cant ask people not to drink in their own home.

The issue of someone drinking and babysitting is different to the set up at Christmas where you will be with your child and so the others won’t be primarily responsible for him. It sounds like there are issues if you’re worrying about arguments etc but I still think it’s unreasonable to make that request.

Yes you are being unreasonable, it's Christmas and people like a drink. As long as you don't drink and are watching your child the whole time I don't see the issue. If people start arguing and you don't like the situation, remove yourself and your child from the room.

You have made yourself look like a pratt, you cannot dictate what people do. And it’s not safeguarding concern, you ought to educate yourself on that one, and on common sense at the same time.

Your job is to safeguard your own toddler, no-one elses.
You really can't dictate what other people do in their own home whether it's Christmas or not! If they are really likely to be that drunk and argumentative by 6pm... don't go!

Main character syndrome.

This is ridiculous.

That's perfectly reasonable if they are looking after him, but you will be!! You can't tell people they can't drink in their own home at Christmas, are they not allowed some with Christmas dinner? Are they actually aggressive? If so that's the problem and I wouldn't be going there for Christmas, or is this just a weird PFB thing.

Exactly this. You are being very unreasonable.

No of course you can't, You can choose not to stay there of course.