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To be fed up of friends negative comments?

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dfleutr · 21/12/2024 19:02

I decided to go blonde two years ago, wasn’t a great decision as it took a long time to get to the specific shade I wanted and it was expensive.

Tired of toning my hair every week. I decided to go back to my natural colour and I got extensions and I felt fantastic.

Met up with friends last night and it was the first time seeing me with dark hair. Everyone said it was lovely and friend mumbled it was nice.

Later on she brought up my hair and said “but all that money you spent on going blonde” … I’m well aware of how much k spent and I also had it for 2 years and very much felt done.

I don’t need compliments and being told it looked nice for a good enough comment for me, but it frustrated me it had to be followed up with something negative. She’s done this quite a few times.

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Radishknot · 21/12/2024 19:34

Then hours later randomly brought up the cost.

So what though?

Ineedaholidayyyy · 21/12/2024 19:32

It's not a negative comment though, it's just a factual comment. Based on this example alone, I don't think she's done anything wrong...

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dfleutr · 21/12/2024 19:31

Radishknot · 21/12/2024 19:26

I just find it odd, she said it looks nice. Then an hour later she brings up the cost. The cost is irrelevant to her.

so she complimented you, why is it bad to mention the cost?

Am I suppose to feel bad for spending money on my hair and wanting a change after two years?

wowsers, you sound hard work…

She complimented it by saying it looked nice.

Then hours later randomly brought up the cost.

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wizzywig · 21/12/2024 19:27

She's like a grumpy old man.

LadyQuackBeth · 21/12/2024 19:26

Have you kept her informed along the way, every attempt to get the exact right shade etc?

You've switched from taking your hair very seriously and acting like there's a perfect colour, to someone who plays around with their hair. Neither approach is wrong but I'd be surprised to spend years listening to someone dissect different blonde tones who then just switched to dark on a whim.

She's just surprised, was probably relieved when you found the right colour and would maybe move on to not needing compliments and as much hair chat. She hasn't actually been negative, just not enthusiastic. If you like your hair - that's great, I hope you enjoy it enough to not need other people to care.

Radishknot · 21/12/2024 19:26

I just find it odd, she said it looks nice. Then an hour later she brings up the cost. The cost is irrelevant to her.

so she complimented you, why is it bad to mention the cost?

Am I suppose to feel bad for spending money on my hair and wanting a change after two years?

wowsers, you sound hard work…

PoissonOfTheChrist · 21/12/2024 19:10

No one has said you're expected to feel bad. Your friend didn't say that either.

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dfleutr · 21/12/2024 19:09

PoissonOfTheChrist · 21/12/2024 19:06

I think you're looking to be offended.

If you don't like her then just stop being friends. No need for drama.

I’m not looking to be offended.

I just find it odd, she said it looks nice. Then an hour later she brings up the cost. The cost is irrelevant to her.

Am I suppose to feel bad for spending money on my hair and wanting a change after two years?

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PoissonOfTheChrist · 21/12/2024 19:06

I think you're looking to be offended.

If you don't like her then just stop being friends. No need for drama.

InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom · 21/12/2024 19:06

That wasn't negative, just an observation.

Dishwashersaurous · 21/12/2024 19:05

That doesn't sound like a negative comment
Just factual

Radishknot · 21/12/2024 19:04

She said you spent a lot on it which you agreed with, I’m not sure that’s particular negative.

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