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Xmas meal

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Ljjov · 21/12/2024 18:52

So my brother is very kindly hosting us and my parents over for Xmas. They are vegetarian, we are. In this case, they will have a nut roast as the main alternative to a turkey. The snag is that my immediate family are all allergic to nuts. DH thinks it's rude of them to have it as the main - am less bothered. Am sure my brother doesnt see it as rude - they just arent as bothered about allergies. DH and DDs allergies are severe enough that if they accidentally ingested nuts- they will need an epipen.

OP posts:
sloecat · 21/12/2024 18:57

So what if someone uses a serving spoon for the nut roast and then helps themselves to vegetables with the same spoon? I think you are being very cavalier with your children’s allergies.

ItOnlyTakesTwoMinutes · 21/12/2024 18:57

God that’s awful.

Team DH!

ShortyShorts · 21/12/2024 18:57

So you'd rather risk your daughter and husband dying a horrible death, than stay home and cook your own dinner?

Nah, not having it.

Original poster
Ljjov · 21/12/2024 18:56

Oh this is totally real. The assumption is that DH and the kids don't eat it but it will still be on the table and everyone else will be tucking in.

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applestewing · 21/12/2024 18:56

What’s the risk of cross contamination? If they will be militant it preparation and serving then slightly less unreasonable

but I do think it’s a bit poor of your brother. There are plenty of non nut alternatives available

eta are you all vegetarian or just your brother?

Ponoka7 · 21/12/2024 18:55

This can't be real surely? Why would you put your children at risk on a day were all emergency services are overstretched? There's nothing kind about your brother. A nut roast can easily be swapped for mushroom Wellington etc.

sidsgranny · 21/12/2024 18:55

Surely they know that DD and DH have a severe nut allergy? Are you expecting them to eat the nut roast and be ill?

I'm with your DH - it's not only rude but potentially dangerous. And you are really very odd for thinking it's not.