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Not overly anxious about baby

27 replies

PlumGoose · 21/12/2024 07:33

This is maybe an odd one but it’s more am I the problem or what’s really normal?
We have a 7 week old baby, she’s absolutely great and I’d summarise motherhood so far as bloody hard work (especially the night feeds as I’m ebf) but so lovely already, especially those little smiles she’s just started to make. I think I’m coping OK, some days of course easier than others but everyday overall is getting easier.

My AIBU is so many other mums in real life and on the internet almost bragging about how anxious they are (examples like watching baby breathing when asleep incase they somehow stop or constantly checking they’re ok) and also how they haven’t left the baby yet and couldn’t ever imagine it etc (and some are 7 months not 7 weeks!)
I’m not really feeling that anxious and I’ve had the odd 30 mins here or there taking the dogs out and had my nails done yesterday, and actually quite enjoyed the really short time of peace and feeling like me! Of course I was so pleased to see her and have snuggles when I got home but Is that a bad sign for attachment or something like that or is it odd that the societal base level is such high (braggable) anxiety?

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Farmwifefarmlife · 21/12/2024 07:54

Sounds perfect to me I’m on DC no 3 and I’m exactly the same I’m super chilled I think people worry too much these days over MH and anxiety.

Rocknrollstar · 21/12/2024 07:47

It sounds to me as if you have a really healthy attitude to motherhood. People today seem generally over anxious. We used to put our babies in their own rooms after a few weeks with no monitors. There was housework to do and toddlers to get to nursery. Mine stayed overnight with GPs from 3 months. Enjoy your baby and get on with your lives.