No Christmas card from my baby

How do you know he hasn't got one? Has he said he's not going to and that's that? If so why don't you ask him again and say it really matters to you. Ask him why isn't he going to get one and remind him that he agreed to this. You need to have a conversation about it. Tell him how you feel this morning and take it from there.

I know lots of people think this is silly, but I completely get why you’re upset. This is also my first Christmas as a mum and if my “baby” doesn’t get me something to mark it, I’ll be upset - not because I think it’s really anything to do with her, but because it’s a way of my husband showing that he appreciates everything I do for her. But then we’re a daft household that also writes cards to and from the cat, so maybe we’re not the best to give a balanced perspective.

As someone who understands, though, remind your husband and let him know why it’s important to you. If he doesn’t get it, he’ll just think you’re being silly. If he realises it’s actually something that reflects how you see his feelings for you, he might realise that it is more than just a card.

I think you need to think what this is really about. I also took a long time and a lot of heartbreak to have a baby and at times clung onto the things I could control as I'd felt so out of control about my body for so long and now dd was here I wanted to be perfect. It took me until dd was 2 to give up my impossible dream and accept that building a strong and loving relationship meant being myself and apologising to dd when I got it wrong. She's now a teen and we are very close. It'll be ok op, with or without a card but I really recommend trying to gently challenge yourself about this as it may give you more long term happiness than a card can

I don't think you're being unreasonable. You've said you'd like one. For some reason he's said he's not got one. Can you mention again how you'd really like one? I felt similar about my first mothers day as a mum I knew it didn't mean anything to the baby and my husband was going to buy me flowers but I had to say what I really wanted was something like a mug that said mum on it "from the baby".

It’s not Christmas yet.

I can totally see why you would be upset at not getting one but he still does have a couple of days. Maybe he just hasn’t got it yet. Have you given him his?

Remind him it’s important to you.

Make a salt dough foot or handprint of the baby as a Christmas decoration. That will be cute and probably last longer.

If he is a good dad I think you need to give your head a wobble and get some perspective. This just is not a thing irl outside of social media. Just cuddle your lovely baby and enjoy your time as a family

I think the Christmas card from your child is one of those later firsts but does happen every year through primary and nursery. Mine are 4 &7 and the Christmas cards they brought home yesterday will come out every Christmas

I think it's a bit poor form of him given how important it is to you. I'm sure you do things for his sake. Bit it's only the 21 Dec - how do you know he doesn't have one for the day.

I haven’t voted. He’s probably forgotten, personally I’d get my own that says ‘mummy and daddy’ & put it up. It’s not really going to be from your child for a long time, when it is it’ll likely be made in nursery and be illegible!

Ahhh there's still time yet. He's probably going to sort it out this weekend & if he doesn't, remind him as men don't think as much about cards as most women do.
It's still early days with baby & you'll be hormonal. Try not to be upset & have a lovely first Christmas with your LO.

What's the bigger picture? Will you have a present from the baby? Does DH recognise all you do for the baby, and does he pull his weight?

If he's ordinarily lovely, then he just doesn't get that this particular thing is important to you. Tell him, but also try not to get too worked up about it.

If this is just one piece of a bigger puzzle, then speak to him about the bigger puzzle.

You are over reacting.
Have a nice packet of Christmas cards in the house that you are all welcome to write in - just in case he didn't buy a pack.

Write a card from baby to Daddy and place it under the tree..
Show him that you have done that.

Writing me a Christmas card was never something my babies were ever able to manage (it is an impossible skill for an infant) so don't be too sad if your baby can't..

Sounds like this is about more than the card op. I’ve voted YABU, because kindly I agree with you, on surface level it is silly. However, I suspect there is more going on. If though there isn’t, remind him and remind him why, otherwise he with probably also think ‘it’s just a card’.

Until your baby can write their own,what on earth is the point?

Kindly, you are being a bit unreasonable about a card from a baby who has no concept, but I can also totally understand why you feel the way you feel.

My husband is rubbish at gift giving. It's just not his thing (he's also autistic which adds another layer of challenge in this area for him). We also have different priorities in terms of what makes a good gift. I have learnt to spell things out if I want something e.g. "I would like a frame for DCs first drawing" resulted in a lovely personalised frame. "I would really like something with hand/footprints for mothers day" resulted in a lovely plaque thing.

Tell him how you feel, there's still time (tesco on Christmas eve will be full of men buying bunches of flowers and boxes of milk tray!). If he still doesn't then get a card, then yes he's a bit of a dick.

The greatest card though, is the first one DC writes themselves 🥰

Kindly, could the hormones be messing with your emotions? Christmas is not even until next week so he could have got you one, but even if not - babies don't get cards and it's not that big of a deal. But if you got him a daddy card and it means so much to you - remind him again. He may be like me though and think it's silly.

Said kindly you're being a bit daft over this. You'll be getting cards from her every year once she goes to nursery, it's a standard crafting activity all the way through to the end of primary (my youngest is now at secondary so no more hand made Christmas cards for me!). That will mean more than your DH writing one for her.

I had no idea that was even a thing!

There is still time.... but if its important to you maybe pop online and buy yourself something like this? Or a really quick search on amazon for 'mums first Christmas' brings up loads of ideas. Some really nice tree decorations which would be my favourite as you can get it out every year. Or get both of you matching personalised 'first Christmas from 'baby name' mugs?

Get yourself one?

Can you just remind him?

How do you know he hasn’t got one?

Did you give him one from the baby?

Have you got him a Daddy card?