Husband's cousin has called their son the same name as our son.

You're going to get told you're being unreasonable because you are.

However you'd prefer to get all worked up about it anyways. Thank yourself lucky that this was worth posting on a forum about. It's nice to have such little problems in life :)

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable.If you don’t socialise much or live in the same area it’s not so bad,but I’d still be a bit pissed off.

It’s very odd. Maybe imitation is the sincerest form of flattery here? Fingers crossed!
Otherwise if you don’t socialise, I wouldn’t worry too much.

I don’t think YABU - especially given the same surname. Funnily enough my DH’s cousin named their baby my all time favorite baby name - as much as I loved the name, we didn’t even consider it !

I thought this habit made more sense before the advent of the internet, especially in the days when many people couldn’t read or write and never left the county of their birth?

By the way, I’ve never met anyone with the same first name as me, and as far as I know, no one in the world has the exact same first name + last name combination. DD and I have never met anyone who shares her first name (although we have met a couple with alternative versions), and as far I can tell, there is only one other person in the UK with the same first name + last name as DD. And they do have different middle names.

Some if my ancestors were Welsh and I knew that their habit of communal first name + unflattering nickname (e.g. Dai The Pig) was not for me.

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Grow up! It’s your husband cousin, not his brother or your sister and even if it was, you don’t own the name. It might be their favourite name!

Happened on our family, two brothers each had a baby girl 12 months apart. Same first name and surname… A bit weird but they cope.

Thanks for that lol. 😁 My prerogative to be pissed off if I wish..

The constant reiteration of names in a family has always been a signal of kinship.
I always know, when I am doing ancestral research, which families are the correct ones, by the names that are reiterated through all the extended family and generations. Don’t be annoyed. It’s a strength, at the best flattering at the worst mildly irritating.

YABVVU. It's his second cousin fgs.

Big Irish family here, my mum was one of 10 so I have lots of cousins. I couldn’t tell you what all their children are called so it wouldn’t bother me. May be different if your husband and cousin are more like brothers, live down the road and the babies will grow up together.

What actual problems does this cause? Feels like a non issue to me, genuinely couldn’t get myself worked up about this.

Yes, yes you are

For pretty much all of recorded history sons have had the same name as fathers, particularly honoured grandfathers have had many grandchildren named after them, and in countries like Ireland every second daughter was called Mary.

It's only ever been on mumsnet that I've come across the idea that a couple of children in the same extended family or friendship group sharing the same name is a problem.

It's really weird. Particularly after the advent of the internet it should be obvious to everyone that their name does not, and cannot, uniquely identify them. There are loads of people with exactly the same name as you or your child. Get over it.

Can you imagine Mumsnet if Muslim women were a majority? "ooh they have called their dB mohammed" "I was going to call our baby Mohammed what do you think Mohammed?". "Dunno darling, I'll call my brother - hey Muhammad.."
And from a harry Enfield sketch
" You can't call her mohammed, that's a boys name"

What your parents did is perfectly fine and reasonable, but so would sticking to the name they originally chose if it meant a lot to them. People in families, streets, school and jobs share the same names all the time, it's really not a big deal. My son, Luke, shares the same name with his best friend at school. I've worked in a job where my opposite manager of another team had the same name, in reality it's not an issue.

I accidentally called DS the same name as my cousin's son as we hadn't seen each other for years and I genuinely didn't realize...and my daft Dad, who did know, forgot to tell me until after we'd named DS. 😂

As others have said though, it's not uncommon to repeat names in families.

Yep my cousin did the same thing silly really

Do you own the copyright of the name? You don't? In that case, get over yourself.

The first one was Pete.

The other two were Re-Petes .

It’s no big deal.

I had three Uncle Petes and four Uncle Daves and managed not to be confused.

It's a fucking disgrace. How dare they!

I went to school with a lad called Dave (not his real name but I don't want to say what it really is as it would be outing as it's pretty uncommon). His older brother is also called Dave. Older Dave is a massive bell end currently serving life in prison for something quite horrific. Younger Dave changed his name legally as soon as he was able to.

I have the same name as my sister and it’s never been a problem for us 🤷‍♀️