Husband's cousin has called their son the same name as our son.

It’s not weird. It is weird that people get annoyed about it

Hire an assassin. No punishment is too extreme for a transgression of this magnitude.

YANBU it's an odd thing to do

Haha, oh the irony...it's so ridiculous, isn't it!

Totally unreasonable! Even with the same surname, it's not a big deal! My daughter gave her second born child my partner's mothers name as her middle name. My partner's daughter, when she found out, went absolutely mad. Saying the name has been "stolen" by my daughter, and that she'd wanted to call her daughter by that name (bearing in mind that at the time, her daughter was not pregnant, not planning on getting pregnant, nor was she guaranteed a daughter, even if she had got pregnant!). I just told her not to be ridiculous. She could still have used it as she and my daughter never meet, and their offspring are unlikely to meet often, if at all. I also pointed out that the daughter's name was also one of my middle names (I have 3...), and as I'm older, she had obviously "stolen" my name! She didn't take kindly to that, and called me ridiculous. I had to point out the irony....

It’s so helpful 😂

My late FiL was one of 15 and most of them followed that tradition. So so helpful.

You've made me smile as that's so true! There are 7 Georges and 5 James!

I called DD1 the same name as my aunty, as I always thought it was a nice name. We have two Jacks, two Davids and two Chrises in quite a small extended family group and it causes no issues whatsoever.

That was the same in most of Scotland.
1st son Father’s father
2nd son Mother’s father
3rd son father

1st daughter Mothers mother
2nd daughter Father’s mother
3rd daughter mother

Sometimes it switched round, but makes it so handy when doing your family tree when you know that there absolutely should be a Peter/Michael/Mary

Common/the norm in many cultures...

In my dad's family in quite a small village in Scotland it was traditional to name your first son after your father so there are 7 Georges in our family.

Seriously? 🙄

@shoulde if it makes you feel any better my eldest son has a cousin who shares his name too. His brother and wife used our son's name due to it being similar to a relative they lost during the pregnancy. They live at opposite ends of the country and have never met due to family being very dis-jointed. It happens, try not to let it bother you.

husband's cousin? So no close relative. Total non issue.

I think YABU for two reasons:

1. there is enough separation
2. they're three years apart so won't be in the same school year/clubs

In many families there are family names, or variations fo it - Joe, Joey. Joseph, Peppi... look up the name on Facebook, for starters, and you'll see that the same combination is shared by many strangers... one of my sons had the same name and surname as his Head of School...

I'd be flattered and leave it at that.

Meh. My stepson married a woman with my name. Three of my DH's brothers at one point all had wives with the same name. So they didn't choose the name but it was confusing.
You don't own a name and I'd only be annoyed if it was a very unusual family name or something.

This is daft, I've called my son the same name as 2 of my cousins. It's also the exact same name as his grandad! Take it as a compliment. I'd be more annoyed if someone took a name before I got chance to use it, but it's one of those scenarios where you'd just have to feel aggrieved without ever telling anyone.
You can be secretly pissed off but you can't ever tell anyone

There are duplicates in my DHs side. I'd get on quick with some emails, social media addresses as soon as you are able.

I think it was quite normal a generation ago to share names in a family (sons, fathers and gradfathers!) But it's less so now when you have to have something fairly unique so as not to cause digital confusion.

My husbands cousin did the same and named her daughter the same name as ours ( 3 months apart) yes nobody owns a name and we don’t see them at all anymore, I wasn’t bothered but the thing I was bothered about is that we had the name picked out for a girl as soon as I found out I was pregnant ( again I was 3 months ahead in pregnancy than her so when I found out I was pregnant she wasn’t even pregnant!!) yet at 20 weeks when we found out she was a girl and we announced she was a girl and her name his cousin and her older daughter started crying saying we stole their baby name ( we announced that we was having a girl to this family member closer to my due date as it was my husbands sister who is closer to her not us when my husbands cousin announced she was as having a girl too and said she was calling her baby the same name, we didn’t tell her our babies gender till closer to my due date but she knew from when I found out I was pregnant what our name choices where so it wasn’t an accident) it kind of wound me up a bit as she wouldn’t stop saying we stole her baby name when she knew I had the name picked out before she was even pregnant with her daughter, I didn’t say anything though and tried to let it go.

i guess if you are close to them then i can understand why your angry but if you hardly see them then i guess not so much.

but for all the people saying it’s not a big deal and you don’t own a name, true but what i will say is we have had occasions where we have had a family gatherings in the past and when someone has called my daughters name the other child would also come or turn around and it just gets confusing. I do think if you are in the same family and are relatively close or see each other a bit it’s not ideal to be naming kids the same names.

I have friends whose DS has the same name as his cousin. It really isn't an issue.
Edited to add that I know a couple of families where all the males have the same first name but go by their middle names, so dad is David John, son 1 is David James and son 2 is David Thomas, but they use the names John, James and Thomas

Just ignore, f hubby has kids with different women he has 2 sons with the same name and a daughter with a variation of the name.

Unfortunately you need to just let it go OP. I have a friend whose cousin has the same name (both first and surname) as her and they just laugh about it.

They're not even cousins. They're second cousins!!!
Seriously? Why is this a big deal unless you are all exceptionally close, go in holiday together or live in the same street.?
If that's the case, then yeah. I could understand why you might be annoyed.

But... second cousins? Realistically how much will they feature in each others lives?