I'm in early stages of getting a property with partner - mortgage approved and started processing documents with solicitors so not very far. Mum initially promised that myself and my partner could live in current place for 'as long as it took' and my partner gave notice on his rented accommodation - landlord is selling anyway - and is leaving there February. Now she is saying that my current flat - which does belong to her TBF - needs to go on market first thing in the new year. It is her property and she can of course do what she likes with it but initially she very kindly said we could BOTH use it as a stopgap while our new house process was underway or if there was a delay. This took my partner by surprise and although he understands that he is not my mum's responsibility , we both feel taken aback by the change of heart and I feel stuck in the middle. I feel I owe it to her as she has helped me with the purchase by charging me reduced living costs. Partner says he will just get an air BnB for a while but I felt embarrassed having to communicate the change of heart and I feel stuck in the middle. I am also worried that she said that would give me XYZ money but actually turned out it was ABC money. As I said I am grateful for any help she has given me but just feel a bit let down as she has promised this then gone back on her word.
I also would like a couple or weeks or so to upgrade the flat a bit before estate agents take pictures eg. Replacing bathroom taps and bathroom lino.
How best to communicate this without her throwing back "it's my property' in my face?