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dustofastar · 2024-12-20T18:45:22+00:00

Meeting three friends for dinner, one of them has fallen out with me but I thought things were now ok. She’s arranged to meet the other two before our meeting place. I feel like just saying I’m too ill to go out.

LimeAnt · 21/12/2024 08:27

I don't know if you did go, but honestly going forward I wouldn't. Either she's dragged them into it and they're not being good friends to you or they're too oblivious to see how rude that is.
I'm so pleased you have other, lovely friends to be with too.
Don't ditch them, just cool off contact. You're a grown woman not 10 you don't need to engage.
I'm sorry it hurts ❤️

GRex · 21/12/2024 07:27

It's really not worth the drama. Go out with different friends, and if the other two want to stay in touch then they will. 8 billion people in this world, what's the point scrapping around because of one who you've already fallen out with?

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 21/12/2024 07:13

dustofastar · 20/12/2024 18:50

It’s on the group chat

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So this 'friend ' specifically only asked the other two to meet earlier?

CandiedPrincess · 21/12/2024 07:09

I feel there was more to this and we're missing a big drip feed.

Differentstarts · 21/12/2024 06:27

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 20/12/2024 23:37

I don't get how this scenario arises. You'd fallen out with one of the people, thought you'd made up ,but on a group chat, she says something like "I'll meet you two before the restaurant" and the other 2 don't query that? And you don't?

God, none of them are friends, you know. That's just wierd behaviour all round. Like a bunch of 12 year olds.

BlueSky2023 · 20/12/2024 23:35

How did you get on OP, did that particular ‘friend’ try and make things awkward for you at the dinner

ICantBelieveItsNotButtercunt · 20/12/2024 23:33

HallidayJones6779 · 20/12/2024 23:04

I hope that the OP went and the air was cleared. Life is too short

I hope so too. But if not, I also hope that she distances herself and spends time with friends that don’t make her feel this way, because life is too short for not doing that as well.

HappyMe6 · 20/12/2024 23:07

To be honest none sound like friends at all

HallidayJones6779 · 20/12/2024 23:04

I hope that the OP went and the air was cleared. Life is too short

Sidebeforeself · 20/12/2024 23:04

Well that was a waste of our time!

ThatsNotMyTeen · 20/12/2024 23:01

notatinydancer · 20/12/2024 22:19

Floods of tears ??

My thoughts exactly

Bumcake · 20/12/2024 23:01

arinya · 20/12/2024 22:08

OP hasn’t been back for the last two pages of replies 🙄

Hopefully she’s gone out to dinner.

ICantBelieveItsNotButtercunt · 20/12/2024 22:59

Pollypoppy · 20/12/2024 22:50

It’s just all so dramatic, floods of tears? They should either go if they want to or don’t go if they would rather give it a miss but to be in floods of tears over this is an unusual reaction imo unless there’s an enormous back story OP hasn’t mentioned.

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I see what you mean, but it’s just a turn of phrase.

Pollypoppy · 20/12/2024 22:50

ICantBelieveItsNotButtercunt · 20/12/2024 22:46

I suppose if OP can stop having feelings about hurtful behaviour, then she can ignore sly comments like this too? I’d tell you to grow up, but I suspect age isn’t the reason that you make these types of comments to strangers on the Internet.

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It’s just all so dramatic, floods of tears? They should either go if they want to or don’t go if they would rather give it a miss but to be in floods of tears over this is an unusual reaction imo unless there’s an enormous back story OP hasn’t mentioned.

ICantBelieveItsNotButtercunt · 20/12/2024 22:46

Pollypoppy · 20/12/2024 22:42

Grow up, have your meal and make your peace.

I suppose if OP can stop having feelings about hurtful behaviour, then she can ignore sly comments like this too? I’d tell you to grow up, but I suspect age isn’t the reason that you make these types of comments to strangers on the Internet.

Pollypoppy · 20/12/2024 22:42

Grow up, have your meal and make your peace.

Differentstarts · 20/12/2024 22:30

I wouldn't go can't be bothered with that crap since leaving school I'd rather a night in with my family

janeavrilavril · 20/12/2024 22:27

She obviously wants to speak about you, get her side in. Just don't let it happen. Go in there and cut that off now.

ICantBelieveItsNotButtercunt · 20/12/2024 22:26

CyranoDeBergerQuack · 20/12/2024 22:20

What has my age to do with my post.
Let's just say that I am old enough to have left childish games long ago.

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Well quite, but not sly comments intended to hurt?

Lucyaugust2007 · 20/12/2024 22:24

Some people never grow up.
I know people who I went to school with who still act the same as they did when they were at school.
I don't have the time or energy for it.

CyranoDeBergerQuack · 20/12/2024 22:20

ICantBelieveItsNotButtercunt · 20/12/2024 22:10

It sounds as though her friends are being unkind. I don’t think there’s an age limit for that. Suggesting the OP is childish though - that’s unkind. How old are you?

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What has my age to do with my post.
Let's just say that I am old enough to have left childish games long ago.

notatinydancer · 20/12/2024 22:19

Floods of tears ??

ICantBelieveItsNotButtercunt · 20/12/2024 22:10

CyranoDeBergerQuack · 20/12/2024 22:05

Because it sounds so terribly childish, that's why.

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It sounds as though her friends are being unkind. I don’t think there’s an age limit for that. Suggesting the OP is childish though - that’s unkind. How old are you?

ICantBelieveItsNotButtercunt · 20/12/2024 22:09

HunterHearstHelmsley · 20/12/2024 21:49

Because they sound like children?

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People of all ages can behave in unkind ways. But it sounds like you’re accusing the OP of being childish, when actually it would be reasonable to be hurt if what she’s describing is the case.

Case in point. How old are you?