DH and I were struggling for some pressie ideas for his parents and his 2 siblings. They've always joked that they're the Heinz 57 of family trees with people from all over the world so we thought it might be fun.
Fortunately DH mentioned it to his mum before we bought the tests.
She put the phone down, then called back 2 mins later, hysterically saying we couldn't, shouldn't, mustn't.
She won't say why. My FIL called later to say that they disapprove of genetic testing for privacy reasons and it would be unforgivable if we bought the tests. (This is a couple who check in on their open FB when they go to Tesco!)
We obviously won't buy them as gifts but DH and his siblings are consumed with curiosity and are thinking of just getting themselves tested. I've suggested that might not be a great idea - they joke about finding out one of them is adopted or an affair baby but it could be really traumatic. FILs brother had quite a chequered past and I suggested his dna might be in a database somewhere - what if you get uncle Derek (not his real name) arrested?
There's obviously a huge can of worms here and I think we should just put the lid back on tightly and forget about it. Am I being unreasonable?