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AIBU to think good friends remember birthdays

57 replies

Elizo · 20/12/2024 16:07

YABU - everyone is different
YANBU - I would expect this

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CoralRubyFish · 20/12/2024 16:32

I don't remember many friends birthdays and they don't remember mine. It's not how I measure how good a friend they are lol we are grownups not kids

snowyglobe · 20/12/2024 16:31

Yes I would expect this, but this mn where people are weird about birthdays.

NewName24 · 20/12/2024 16:30

@arcticpandas - you can change your vote, if you make a mistake, by clicking on the other option. Smile

Superscientist · 20/12/2024 16:18

I do my best but some times life gets in the way. In the last 6 months I have had hyperemesis twice and two miscarriages. I'm sorry but any friends or their children that had birthdays in the summer or the last two months got missed this year. I also missed that a colleague had been made redundant from our company as I had so much time off sick and was struggling to stay afloat.
If it's not typical behaviour maybe give them the benefit of the doubt as they might be experiencing something they aren't ready to talk to you about

Thatcastlethere · 20/12/2024 16:17

I can't even remember the date of my husbands birthday unless I look at my calander and I've known him 20 years...

For friends I rely on Facebook to tell me.
Or them to arrange an event and tell me.
No way would I remember off the top of my head.
Could write them down but then I'd have to remember when to look lol!

I do not expect any of my friends to remember the date of my birthday. If I'm planning on doing something I will let everyone know and I'll remind them intermittently leading up to the date.

Mrsttcno1 · 20/12/2024 16:13

It totally depends really. Assuming everything is okay in everyone’s lives, nothing stressful going on, then yeah a good friend would remember a birthday. But it’s so incredibly easy to forget anything in other circumstances.

arcticpandas · 20/12/2024 16:13

Pressed Yanbu by mistake. Yabu, I never remember birthdays and I wouldn't expect a friend to remember mine. I used to have a friend who was really in to birthdays and came over with flowers and gift for mine. I wrote her birthday up because I wanted to do the same for her. But I really don't care for my birthday or others except children's or family milestone bdays.