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To say your engagement ring goes on your finger first and THEN your wedding ring?

194 replies

jinglejanglejo · 20/12/2024 14:46

So, just that. As you'd have your engagement ring on already at the altar and then your wedding ring goes on, surely?

A quick glance around shows others have it the other way around Confused

OP posts:
LoudPlumDog · 22/12/2024 06:43

Other way around. Wedding ring stays on always, engagement ring on and off when you go out.

littlemissalwaystired · 22/12/2024 06:39

Wedding ring underneath for me as a) I just think it looks better but b) mainly because I can't wear my engagement ring to work so it's easier.

scrivette · 22/12/2024 06:01

I also wear it the 'wrong' way around as it looks better due to the shape of my rings.

Donnah85587 · 22/12/2024 05:55

I wear my engagement ring 1st then my wedding band and there's no other reason behind it other than it's more comfortable on my finger that way. Do whatever makes you happy and comfortable! X

Tortoisema · 22/12/2024 04:39

It’s your finger and your rings - wear them how YOU like.

kennycat · 21/12/2024 23:32

Since the wedding ring is blessed by the priest (in a religious ceremony obv) it should be closest to your heart ie first.
For the ceremony you generally put the engagement ring on your other hand.
I do see your logic though!

canyouseemyhousefromhere · 21/12/2024 23:16

I put my engagement ring on the other hand for the ceremony so wedding, engagement then eternity. I can't get my wedding ring off after 31 years so I won't change it now.

ItsJustLittleOldMe · 21/12/2024 23:13

Nope I wear them in the order I was given them, engagement ring, wedding ring, eternity ring. Makes me happy, literally makes no difference to anyone else so I don’t see why it matters.

PanickingNowHelpPlease · 21/12/2024 22:12

TryingToStayAwake88 · 21/12/2024 21:39

I take off my wedding, engagement and eternity ring when I'm baking etc and then just shove them back on in the order I pick them up. So I couldn't even tell you what order they are currently on my finger without looking.

Same…and this is possibly a bit outing but owing to a language mix up when my husband ordered my eternity ring (we lived in Asia at the time) I have two eternity rings, so there is probably some formulae I can use to work out all the permutations I could have them in, but they’re rarely in the same order from one day to the next.

rightoguvnor · 21/12/2024 22:04

I also wear my engagement ring first as it's a bit loose. TBHi wouldn't grieve too much if I lost the wedding ring - it's a 1980s Argos special so it's seen a bit of wear
The engagement ring though, I still check the claws are all in place and tight.

magicalmrmistoffelees · 21/12/2024 21:57

Tessiebear2023 · 21/12/2024 21:55

I feel sad about you all wearing the same rings every. day. In the same order - yikes. Don't you ever want a change?? I'm so glad I've never married, different cocktail ring every day for me, no shits given.

This is a joke post BTW, no offence intended.

I wear the same engagement ring and wedding ring every day on that one finger, and all sorts of different jewellery on my other fingers/wrist/ears/neck!

Tessiebear2023 · 21/12/2024 21:55

I feel sad about you all wearing the same rings every. day. In the same order - yikes. Don't you ever want a change?? I'm so glad I've never married, different cocktail ring every day for me, no shits given.

This is a joke post BTW, no offence intended.

pollypocket90 · 21/12/2024 21:43

I had my engagement ring on first then wedding band... just makes sense being in order to me!

TryingToStayAwake88 · 21/12/2024 21:39

I take off my wedding, engagement and eternity ring when I'm baking etc and then just shove them back on in the order I pick them up. So I couldn't even tell you what order they are currently on my finger without looking.

JaceLancs · 21/12/2024 21:04

I never took my wedding ring off ever until I got divorced - my DM has been wearing hers for 65 years!
Eternity ring next if you have one then engagement ring last

drspouse · 21/12/2024 21:02

Mine does but only because I've lost weight since getting married and the engagement ring is looser.

Londonrach1 · 21/12/2024 21:01

Wedding first but honestly it doesn't matter whatever works for you

ExpatForLife · 21/12/2024 20:58

My engagement ring has always been a bit loose so my wedding band is on the outside to serve as a guard. Number of people who have commented in 25 years: 0.

midlandsdogwalker · 21/12/2024 20:20

Wear it the way you want it and don’t stress about what other people do. It’s just a convention to have the wedding ring on first but don’t make a big issue of it.

Packetofcrispsplease · 21/12/2024 19:57

My wedding ring is on 24/7 so my engagement ring 💍 is on top of that .
I don’t wear my engagement ring around the house

Bigcat25 · 21/12/2024 19:52

Engagement ring first. It's more valueable in my case so I'd rather it be second to slide off. Once when raking leaves my wedding ring fell off and and the second almost did. I was lucky to find it the next day but it wasn't easy.

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 21/12/2024 19:51

I have it your way round sort of for safety; my wedding band is a tighter fit and doesn't have the stone in it that I've always felt would help slip my engagement ring off my finger if they were soapy or oily.

I rarely take off either ring. Could probably count on one hand the times I have.

Purplebunnie · 21/12/2024 19:49

jinglejanglejo · 20/12/2024 14:50

OMG I've been wearing it wrong 😑

As I've got older and my fingers have swollen it's engagement ring, eternity ring then wedding ring. Or sometimes eternity ring, engagement ring then wedding ring. But I only wear all three when I go somewhere special.

Mostly I just wear the wedding ring, and for a few years I didn't even wear my wedding ring as I'd put on a lot of weight. Lost the weight, the ring went back on but now I've put it all the weight back on and the wedding ring may have to come off until I lose the weight again

CharlotteStreetW1 · 21/12/2024 19:48

Mine are engagement ring, wedding ring then eternity ring because that's how they sit best.

MaMoosie · 21/12/2024 19:43

My rings are far too big for me now as I’ve lost a load of weight so I’m not wearing either, but wedding band first then engagement ring.