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To not want friends dog in my house

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Niceeyes · 20/12/2024 11:07

i have a lovely friend who has a Labrador dog and although I love dogs, I have my own smaller dog, I am not keen on her dog.

The dog hasn’t been trained and jumps up on me and almost topples me over when I visit her. It try’s to sniff your crotch and bottom too. It has excessive saliva all over its mouth and tries to lick me but the main thing is that my friend barely ever washes him. So he really does smell. We’ve been on walks where he’s rolled in fox poo and then he wanders back into her house and sits on her sofa. She will only cold hose him down outside or use dry shampoo…
I patted him on the head yesterday and my hand stank!

the reason I’m mentioning all of the above is because she wants to stay with me for a few nights in January ( her husband is away and she wants the company), and she doesnt have dog care so I know she expect me to take her dog in too. She only lives a 30min drive away.

the dogs both get on very well but I do not want her smelly dog in my house, she doesn’t wipe him down after a muddy walk either so I know my furniture will be ruined

what should I do? Love my friend just not her dog

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AmandaHoldensLips · 20/12/2024 11:19

You have to say so.

"You're very welcome to stay. I hope you won't be offended but I can't have Wuffles in my house. It's too much."

You don't have to give a reason. Just say no. Any reason you give will be an open door to her making an excuse/promise.

It's very awkward with people who insist on inflicting their stinky dog on other people. They are rhino-skinned and think their darling dog is the most important creature on earth.

Bollocksmorelike · 20/12/2024 11:17

I am a huge dog lover, obsessed with them… but I would not have your friend’s dog in my house!
I have my own dogs but I don’t invite other dogs here, for a variety of reasons. I just say to friends that bringing their dogs “wouldn’t work for my dogs”. Can you do similar? Say your dog enjoys seeing their dog but having him in their own space at home would be unsettling for them?

KayVess · 20/12/2024 11:16

Just say no. But arrange to spend some time with her not in your home if she finds being alone hard?

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