I’ve lost 4 stone and not one person has noticed

I met a colleague I hadn't seen for several months. She had lost so much weight I thought she had cancer or other disease. So I didn't say anything.
Turns outvshe had a gastric band.
Similarly, I've congratulated someone on her pregnancy. Won't ever do that again!

My friend has recently lost 4 stone, due to having a severe eating disorder. Everyone has been commenting on it and telling her how great she looks now, which has been fuelling it and driving her to lose more because in her mind everyone must have thought she was fat before (she wasn't). I would never comment on someones weight loss because it may not be intentional or healthy

I once commented on someone losing weight, she looked great so wanted to let her know but I worried for ages after that she would have taken it wrong and might have thought id been suggesting she was fat before. Commenting on weight is dodgy category. I would talk openly to people about how hard you’re trying to lose weight and it’ll open the door for conversation and I expect then you’ll start getting some comments. Either way it’s a huge achievement and you should be very proud of yourself!

To be honest, I don't notice other people's weight movements really.

And when I lost weight myself I wasn't bothered other people's comments about it, I was losing weight because I wanted to, for me.

Well, this makes me even more determined never to comment. I can't win.

Well done, 4st is awesome. Haven't RTFT but just wanted to say, not everyone does comment on a person's weight loss. I don't myself unless the person brings it up first. Partly because I feel a person is more than their body size and shape, partly because I always worry that commenting carries a subtext of having noticed the person was fat before, IYKWIM, besides which people don't need my opinion on their body.

I totally get that it's disappointing after all your hard work, but I think most people will have noticed even if they haven't commented. Don't let it mar your pleasure in your achievement!

What do you expect them to say, bearing in mind that it's considered rude to comment on folk's weight?
Out of interest, how did you lose the weight?

Of course no one has mentioned it - if a friend told me she’d lost four stone I’d pretend I hadn’t noticed she was overweight in the first place. I would however show some interest in what she’d done/changed as in my experience that level of weight loss requires immense discipline and focus.

Yeah. As others said. They noticed but can't say anything. Bit annoying in some way, so get you. Luckily people around me know me so when I lost they comment. Oddly it helped a bit? Like you are not losing weight for them, but it's a hard work so it's in some way nice to hear if that makes sense

Well done!
I wouldn't comment because I despise people mentioning my weight, it's basically them saying 'gosh, you aren't quite as fat as you were are you? I totally noticed how ugly and fat you looked before and judged you. But well done you on being less fat and ugly now' 👏

But also I probably wouldn't even notice as I don't notice people's looks or body especially. I also wouldn't notice if you had a hair cut or where wearing glasses. I'm not very observant as its not something im focusing on unless I think about it.

And depending how much overweight you were then it might not be that obvious, I could lose several stone and not look much different.

aibu to feel a bit miffed.

Yes. Presumably you didn't lose the weight for other people and/or their comments.

I wouldn't mention weight loss to anyone unless it was someone I knew was trying to lose weight. As others have said, you don't know if it's intentional or due to illness or stress etc.

I never mention people’s weight, is they’ve put on, well you just don’t ! And if they’ve lost it could be for so many reasons but also is a way of saying you were fat but now you’re not 😂.

if the person looks well and happy I’m more likely to say ‘ you look soo well, I love your dress/hair/?

This time a year ago, @Lilyflame, I had lost 2.5st. Nobody mentioned it. O lying now, a year on, are people starting to.

Well done. I bet you feel fab.

Are your friends overweight? Sometimes people can be jealous and either ignore your weight loss os say you looked ‘better’ before.

People will have noticed. I lost half of what you lost and people noticed. But it's a bit of a taboo subject. People know it's really not OK to talk about weight gain/loss in a way it was 20 or 30 years ago, so they will have noticed for sure but just haven't commented.

‘you’ve put on weight’ is very rude.

‘you’ve lost weight’ is a compliment. But it shouldn’t be.

I think it’s a good thing no one has commented on your body, it’s none of their business.

I never comment on someone's body size/shape, even when it's obvious.

Well done on your progress, it's a huge achievement and you should be really proud of yourself.

I never mention anyone's weight loss/gain. I did it once, and the reason why they lost weight was because they had Chohn's disease, and they got upset.

another mum at the school gate lost loads of weight and I didn’t bring it up because I was worried she was ill! Eventually I found out she wasn’t (at a Christmas do when she told me about her diet) and I told her she looked great. But people are cautious about mentioning it particularly if you lost it fast

Well done on your weight loss!
Like others I wouldn't comment (unless you brought it up first) for risk of offending.

I never comment on peoples weight. They get angry sometimes because they are on Ozempic or depressed or ill.
I am not chancing it.

Well done by the way!! It's a great achievement.

I wouldn't comment either - people can lose weight through illness and stress too so I wouldn't necessarily assume it was a good thing. If you mentioned diet or exercise I would then feel free to say you were looking good!
but also people just aren't that observant.
Well done - 4 stone is a lot!!

Don't worry; I'm sure they have. However it can be awkward (and maybe considered rude!) to say essentially 'wow, you're not as fat as you were'.. or you could have lost weight through illness or some other negative... I think people are a bit wary of offending, which I see to a point. Well done on your weight loss!