Perfectly willing to be told that I’m being unreasonable here. Genuinely unsure what the situation is in most large families.
DP is part of a large family and as a result we have multiple nieces and nephews (6 total). Me and DP are the only ones out of all his siblings who don’t have any kids, everyone else has at least 1. At Christmas we buy individual presents for all of our nieces and nephews, and this totals around £150, often a bit more. Everyone else in the family has their own children, so as well as buying gifts for everyone else’s kids they’re all getting presents for their child in return. A big present exchange is done every year on Christmas Morning, and we obviously don’t get anything from anyone as we don’t have children. For context the kids are all between 0 and 4.
Now I know you don’t give to receive, and obviously I don’t expect the kids to get me anything, which makes me think I’m being entirely unreasonable here. However it is a lot of money each year now there are so many of them! Would I be unreasonable to say look there are too many of them now for them all to get a present each, and maybe rejoin the huge gift giving exchange if/when we have our own?
Kind of theoretical as I know in reality we will probably keep buying them all presents come what may, just interested re what other people do in this situation?