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To ask what's the nastiest thing someone's said to you on here?

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Shinings · 19/12/2024 20:10

Or the internet in general?

I really enjoy (for the most part) using mumsnet and have had some really helpful advice over the years and some good laughs. I know anything goes on here though, especially in AIBU and thats why I rarely post in this section. It's great to get honest advice but what's the difference between honest and cruel I wonder.

Mine was a couple of years ago when I posted on the relationships board about how I was struggling to overcome the fact that my ex partner and close friend ended up in a relationship a few months after we had split. It felt much worse as I had suffered a miscarriage a year before, cue some lovely poster telling me to basically get over it and that many people had suffered miscarriages before and I wasn't anything special - absolutely correct but that didn't make my situation any less sad or painful.

I can laugh about it now (the comment) but it was horrible at the time. I just can't imagine someone saying that to another persons face but people feel more confident behind a keyboard don't they. I'm sure others on here have worse examples. It only crossed my mind because I read a thread earlier and some of the comments were absolutely awful (I mean, really crossing the line and quite hurtful imo)

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MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/12/2024 20:26

Ah, I'm sorry you had that happen - have a big unMumsnetty hug 🫂

I've had a few run ins on here, but the shield of anonymity goes both ways so I've given as good as I've got if it feels appropriate, mostly I roll my eyes and scroll on by.

Worst one was via Facebook - someone on my friends list, but not known to me personally, which is quite large because I used to have a business and DP and I were "active in the local community", took it upon themselves as a good "Christian" from a particular sect, to message me and tell me my late DPs sudden demise from undiagnosed cancer was God's punishment for our Gothic lifestyle and proceeded to tell me that unless I was exorcised and turned to Jesus, I would end up aline, sick and homeless. Oh, and I should hold my loved one's close while I had the chance.

I went completely postal as it wasn't long since the funeral and I was a bit drunk, and named and shamed her publicly. I got a 24 hour ban for bullying and she changed her profile and blocked me.

For that, I cannot forgive nor forget. It's a horrible icy cold feeling when you get an attack like that.

These days my profile is locked down and I barely use Facebook. I do think social media is a real problem in this regard.

Anyway - best wishes to you OP xxxx

queenofthewild · 19/12/2024 20:25

I was trying to express how sad I felt for DH and DS that MIL wanted no contact since she started a new family with her new DH.

I was laid into because my post was unsympathetic to all the mumnetters whose lives are made miserable by interfering MILs.

Threetrees745 · 19/12/2024 20:24

I had one on the step parents board the other day saying I was jealous of a child and I was unhinged and aggressive because I had asked for help on one particular issue.

Aposterhasnoname · 19/12/2024 20:21

That I was mental and should “get in the bin” because I am still badly affected by being physically, mentally and sexually abused by my ex. Then posted rows of laughing emojis when I said I was leaving the thread due to the nasty comments.