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AIBU to wonder why the hell my mum was obsessed with the water bill?

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YourProudSnail · 19/12/2024 19:26

We were only allowed to shower when she was in the bedroom (shower in en-suite) where she would wait in the bedroom and start counting the minutes down in her bedroom. Once 5 minutes was up she would shout to get out or barge in while I was in the shower.

This was done to "save money" at the time but looking back on it while we were on benefits we were definitely not poor (outlier case with high child maintenance and a paid off house due to accident) and there were no issues with money when she wanted a long hot bath every day.

I didn't think it was odd but the idea of doing this with own DC or a partner just seems absurd now I think about it. Even as a student where people were scraping by on £5-£10k a year absolutely no-one cared about how long people took in the shower (unless they needed to use ti obviously).

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Christmasmuppet · 19/12/2024 19:37

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 19/12/2024 19:35

Eh?

It costs money to heat up water. Either electric or gas depending on the system in the house.

Christmasmuppet · 19/12/2024 19:37

How could you be on benefits and high maintenance? It's only been in the last 15 years you could keep both. Are you quite young?

PullTheBricksDown · 19/12/2024 19:36

Also, unless you are very young, water meters would not have been in place. So you'd have been paying water rates that were fixed, no matter how much you used. Of course rampant waste of water isn't good, but sounds like this was a psychological thing for your mum. I'm sorry.

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 19/12/2024 19:35

MereDintofPandiculation · 19/12/2024 19:34

Unless you were a fan of cold showers, it wasn’t just the water bill she was worrying about

Eh?

MereDintofPandiculation · 19/12/2024 19:34

Unless you were a fan of cold showers, it wasn’t just the water bill she was worrying about

fashionqueen0123 · 19/12/2024 19:33

That sounds unhinged. And it does not surprise me that you don’t speak to her, I’m guessing for many reasons!

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 19/12/2024 19:31

It's the fact that she was allowed as much water as she wanted. And barging in once you have reached puberty is not ok either

YourProudSnail · 19/12/2024 19:29

Fleurdalys · 19/12/2024 19:27

Maybe ask her?

I haven't spoke to her since turning 19 due to other more serious reasons, but yes that would be a good idea if not :)

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Fleurdalys · 19/12/2024 19:27

Maybe ask her?

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