It depresses me that in 2024 it still seems to be a common thing for women to run around doing 'everything' for 'everyone' and getting fuck all in return at Christmas.
I'm not talking about buying for little kids. I get why you end up doing that even if your other half should be doing their share - you're hardly going to ruin a kid's Christmas to make a point.
I'm talking about, buying gifts for partners who don't buy you anything, buying all the in laws presents when your partner/husband contributes nothing to Christmas. Ditto hosting the in laws when all the work falls on you.
I feel like it's the kind of thing that should only happen once and then you realise your efforts were wasted and don't bother doing it again. But instead people post on here that it happens year after year. That's fine if you enjoy it and don't want and expect anything but to keep on running around after everyone and then getting upset when nobody gives you a seconds thought seems insane. So why do you do it?
I have always been of the mindset that Christmas is for me as well as everyone else. I'll absolutely make the effort for the kids but I'm not driving myself into the ground for anyone who doesn't deserve it.