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Autism concerns Can I have a second pair of eyes please

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Firstimemum24 · 19/12/2024 14:52

22 months old development
Positive

  1. answer to questions with yes and no
  2. Answer to where’s and what’s questions
  3. Give kisses and high five
  4. Point , wave and clap
  5. Ask for what she wants by pointing or using the word for it
  6. Follow simple instructions such as : “ bring mum the fork “ pick it up and give it mummy “ come here and stop and wait for mom “ when outside . Sit on the couch , bath time and food time she sits on her little chair , put bunny to bed or bring me the blanket .
  7. Uses over a 100 words and sometimes 2 word phrases : like feed baby , daddy train , mummy coffee
  8. Says hi to people and kids

Concerns

  1. toe walker ( I have been told it is a milestone 🤔)
  2. Very shy and doesn’t like playgroups but then again she is a lonely child
  3. Picky eater ( this is what she eats ) bolognese pasta homemade
  4. Homemade spinach , pasta , tomato and carrot soup
  5. Pasta with ricotta and tomato
  6. Pasta pesto
  7. Pasta with zucchine
  8. Lasagna
  9. Meatballs
  10. Toast with butter and marmite
  11. Almond croissant
  12. Banana and kiwi
  13. Pear and peaches
  14. Apples
  15. Vegetarian sausage and peanut butter toast
  16. Eggs and cress sandwich
  17. Chicken and Brie sandwich
  18. Raw Carrots
  19. Veggies crisps
  20. Banana and blueberry pancakes

Also we can’t seem to have a back and forth conversation . What age does it develop ? ☺️

OP posts:
HPandthelastwish · 19/12/2024 15:06

The thing with autism is a lot of traits are entirely normal and age appropriate until they continue past a point when they aren't. DD not liking handdriers at 3 years was totally normal, they are loud and close to their heads. My DD refusing to enter a public toilet with handdriers at 13 way less typical.

If it isn't causing issues then wait until she's 5+ to start worrying.

Also it's largely inherited so if you or your partner don't have a family tree peppered with people with traits even if not diagnosed then it's unlikely.

biscuitsandbooks · 19/12/2024 15:06

She sounds perfectly normal, but you would probably benefit with some help for your anxiety.

saltandvinegarchipsticks · 19/12/2024 15:05

None of those three things you’ve listed stand out to me as being any concern at all.

Candlesandmatches · 19/12/2024 15:04

My other son who is not autistic survived on a diet of burgers - just bread and meat nothing else , ham pizza, fish fingers and bread. Believe me she is not a picky eater

Candlesandmatches · 19/12/2024 15:03

That 100% is not a picky eater. My son is autistic. He has always eaten everything and is very adventurous.
she isn’t yet 2. They are not really capable of back and forth conversations.
Enjoy your child, read to her, have fun with her, take her swimming to museums etc.
If she is autistic she will still be the same child.
If you are worried about speech see a speech therapist.

NerdAlertt · 19/12/2024 15:02

I'm diagnosed autistic, as are two of my children, and I honestly can't see anything concerning here at all. I think your child's diet sounds good and very varied. I definitely wouldn't describe them as a picky eater

Your child uses gestures appropriately, doesn't have speech difficulties and can follow social cues appropriately for their age (saying hello etc). Kindly, I really don't think you have anything to worry about :)

HollopingHooligans · 19/12/2024 14:55

Are you saying her diet is a concern? Because having raised a few toddlers I can tell you now that she has a fantastic varied diet!

She's still a baby really though. She isn't even 2. Is she your first?