People who drink are even more annoying at Christmas?

I'm 57 already @ThePoshUns

Come back to me when you're 53 @NeedToChangeName 🙄

I don't know anyone like this. Just had works do, was about 50 / 50 drinking, noone cared. Off out with friends tonight, two of them are driving, again noone cares.

You need better friends OP.

This. Stoners are so boring.

Not to say drinkers can't be, but They’ll mock the “fatty that can’t stop eating” while downing their 5th glass? No one I know would say that.

I guess I feel that being hungover is an error of judgement (drinking to excess) rather than fun loving letting their hair down

So, I feel those errors of judgement are more understandable in younger people

If I see older people drunk / under the influence, I don't think "bet they're having fun". I do think it's lame. That's just my view. I don't mind if you feel differently

I don’t know anyone like this. Your social circle is grim- get rid.

I drink as do all friends, I literally don't know one single person who behaves like that, so as other posters have said, it's just your circle of friends.

im a little confused, the op isn’t just talking about big drinkers, no one suggested she go nc for them being big drinkers?

she’s told us these people are aggressive, there is a risk of violence, the risk of a punch she said, she tells us they mock and call people , her I guess, fatties,

we are advising going nc due to the detail in the op not simply as they are big drinkers, I am confused why you’d think that?

Why don't you want to join in, even without a drink you could play a family game?

I agree with everyone else on here - it's the people you know. I often drive to visit friends, so don't drink, and have never experienced this. My family are actually big drinkers, but they all always have 'posh' soft drinks for the non-drinkers, and my nephew makes some great non-alcoholic cocktails.

I would find it hard to be around people like this, and even worse to be around stoners (SO boring). There are better friends out there.

I bloody love a drink, but I am not anything like the people in your OP. I agree with everyone else - find better friends.

My family on my husband’s side are big drinkers and loud. They’re still nice people. It’s just their thing and not mine. And they cannot understand why others wouldn’t want to spend Xmas like that. I don’t want to go for Xmas (and no longer do) but it certainly doesn’t mean I need to go no contact. But it’s tough saying no because they cannot understand why someone could not want to drink and play loud games. If we don’t go Xmas day they try to get us to do the same on Boxing Day or the 27th. I think they all think I’m a humbug!😃

I drink, and i know lots of people who drink. The ones who behave like you describe are utterly that's, and it ruins drinking for me, personally. If someone starts putting the pressure on me to drink, my desire for alcohol just immediately vanishes! I have a parent like this and they then sit there as if you've offended them personally if you say no thank you....

Then she needs to go no contact. It would explain why she’s written it like it’s something we would all experience or recognise.
these people are the dregs of the earth, I feel so sorry for her.

Quite possibly but she can still chose not to go, or not invite them

I don't know anyone who behaves like that, so maybe you just need better friends, who can take their drink and not be arseholes about it.

Also, stoners are terminally dull, and most of them are not growing their own.

Everyone saying “choose new friends” -.she may be talking about family at Xmas!

I think what’s sad is yoh seem to think the extreme ott behaviour you describe is actually normal. like people would agree with you. Very few people will encounter something so extreme. It isn’t normal.

please find new friends, don’t socialise with these people. They are utter low life’s.

I don't drink much at all (tend to get ill before I get drunk, so it's pointless) and as it happens my closest family don't either, nobody's fussed. We have all had variations on this theme over the years, particularly when we were younger - generally from acquaintances and colleagues rather than actual friends. It's infuriating, boring and bloody rude.

Now at 51, it almost never happens and everyone I spend time with knows I'll either have 0, 1 or maybe 2 small drinks and that'll be that. I'd consider who you're spending time with. Plenty of non-idiots around, whether they're drinkers or not. Dh likes a drink, as do his friends and family, but none of them have a go at us, they're just delighted to have a driver on the rare occasion we go anywhere.

I agree with you. Im a drinker but I would never try to push drink on someone else if they have said no. Pushing alcohol on others is pretty toxic behaviour that was always socially acceptable, although I think it’s becoming less acceptable over the years as attitudes to alcohol are changing.

Oh stop it with the bloody ageism ffs! 🙄

@ChristmasAlcoholObjection
Alcohol is nit the problem here, it's the company you choose to keep.

Nothing like a bit of casual ageism there. Over 50s are also allowed to let their hair down you know. 🙄

To be honest, your friends sound awful. And you sound judgemental too. Describing people as Fatties is just a horrible thing to do.

I went out with 16 people I loosely know last night for Christmas Dinner. I was driving and had two drinks. Noone tried to force anything on me. The lady next to me was also driving and had coke zero. Another guy was driving, I didn't see what he was drinking. Everyone else was filling their boots and having a great time. Perhaps you need to try a new friendship group next time,