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Christmas is just additional wifework isn’t it?

110 replies

TheSecondMrsCampbellBlack · 18/12/2024 22:13

I have a good marriage but still 90% of Christmas organisation ends up being me. I buy most presents, sort the shopping (albeit online) and it’s really annoying. It’s just WORK!

Last year dh did the kids presents and realised how much work it is.

YABU what’s the problem, stop moaning
YANBU, god it’s all a huge PITA, mainly for women

OP posts:
Livinginadream · 18/12/2024 22:21

Delegate

ManyMaybes · 18/12/2024 22:21

I love doing all of it!

LizzieSiddal · 18/12/2024 22:20

Next year start planning with him.
My dh works longer hours than me but I still expect him to do his fair share by helping with planning presents/meal planning/ food order/card writing etc. it really does help having two brains doing all this.

Moonlightstars · 18/12/2024 22:20

Not here. DH does 50% of presents and wrapping. And does 80% of the cooking. I do decorations
We hardly do any presents though as made sure we stopped on all adults.

Screamingabdabz · 18/12/2024 22:20

I just can’t cope with it all so DH has to step
up. We act as a team. It’s not romantic, it’s still all a ball ache but at least we play to our strengths and get through it.

Wigtopia · 18/12/2024 22:19

Doesn’t work like that here! I buy presents for my family, he takes care of presents for his. We are both in the kitchen Christmas Day. He works on the roasted spuds and other veg (including peeling and chopping) I’m responsible for the nutroast and dessert.

dillonbarks · 18/12/2024 22:19

I don't really think it's 'work' - I love Christmas and enjoy all the prep.

Kandyfloss10 · 18/12/2024 22:17

Yanbu traditionally that is the case but it doesn’t have to be if you get dh onboard. For us the cooking is a joint effort, I couldn’t cope with it on my own….im not a cook!

SouthLondonMum22 · 18/12/2024 22:17

Not for me it isn’t. DH contributes as much as I do.

MerryMondayMorning · 18/12/2024 22:16

I always say it's an event made up by men to make work for women.

These days, I barely participate in the preparation. My partner is happy to shop, so that's fine by me.