AIBU to think that you don't change your baby's nappy in the middle of a coffee shop?

TBH, I doubt anyone even noticed.
This thread is more about parents who plonk their baby on the seating, or worse, the table, and change their nappy.

I changed my baby in a large well known coffee shop the other day. I went into the baby change first of all which was fucking rancid!!!! Also both ladies and gents toilets were out of order, which meant only one working toilet in this huge cafe!

I changed baby in the pram instead , hood up so no one could see, used our fold away changing mat and hand sanitizer etc. made sure none of the changing items touched the table, chairs ect.

We were sat discretely in a corner and it was only a wet nappy.

I felt this was ok, given the circumstances.

And?
It's still gross

What? Read my message again. I said with a mat/on lap is non issue. Anyway the portable ones are so thin I would never put a baby on the loo floor on one it would be so hard and unhygienic.

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Look, I know what it’s like with a small baby. But come on that’s not acceptable. I do think we become immune to the daily routine of changing a baby, and obviously it just becomes so normalised, but that is not the problem of other people.

Yes, a wet bum isn’t gross or smelly, but it’s still inappropriate to do that in such a setting, and yes any open arse near food eating areas is unhygienic- I don’t care if it’s an infant arse or that of an 80 year old man, I don’t want it near me. Also, what if the baby decided to pee/poo while the nappy is being changed? That definitely wouldn’t go down well.

I always change mine in the bathroom even if there isn’t a changing table. I put the fold away mat on the floor, or if I have the pram with me I try to do it in there if it will fit in the bathroom.

It’s just pure lazy and inconsiderate.

At the end of the day shit is shit and it should not be making an appearance in a room where food is being served, take your baby out to the car to change if you don’t want to do it in the bathroom on the changing table or take your baby home to change don’t do it where people are eating it’s gross.

This is the only sensible answer

Fine, no one else had to put up with the smoke, my front door which I happened to be standing at, my business.

No. There must be an alternative to doing this, surely…

Legally there has to be a door between a kitchen and a bathroom, so if they were making food in the same part of the building as the baby was being changed then that must be illegal.

What else do you expect people with a potty training child to do? Never go out? There are dogs weeing and shitting on that self same piece of grass! Odd comment.

And it doesn't compare in any way to changing a nappy at a cafe table.

I know, so many times I've had to make that tough choice in public - do I smoke or do I strip a child and let it piss in front of everyone? I wish there were a third option like doing neither.

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anyone who does this is fucking gross.

I'd rather see and smell a little kid on a potty than someone smoking. One's a biological necessity, the other one is an optional, revolting and antisocial addiction. Horses for courses.

Just because they're a baby doesn't mean it's magically hygienic.

So, you wouldn't put your child on some changing tables, but you'd happily expect people to sit down, eat and drink on chairs/tables you've changed your baby's nappy on?

My DS is nearly 40 now but I can remember being told off for something similar. I didnt have a lot of choice. There was a queue for the loo and if I hadn't changed him he would have screamed the place down. A quick, reasonably discreet change seemed like the best option.

That being said, I'm still blushing with shame about the comments I received nearly half a century ago.

Damned if you do and damned if you don't.

My front doorstep looks out on to a big green. Beyond that is the pavement where people walk with kids, dogs, etc. One evening a couple came by with a toddler and a load of stuff, looked like a family get together. I was smoking by my open front door and was amazed to see them put a potty down on the pavement for the child to use. People should be more careful and avoid exposing their little ones in public.

And wipes too.

Why would a new Mum with a tiny baby go out without a portable changing mat?

I'd gouge my eyes out if this happened to a table in a café. OK I wouldn't, but please parents do not change a wet nappy without first covering surfaces with a towel or a blanket or similar. Absolutely full stop do not ever under any circumstances change a nappy in full view in a café if it's more than just a wet nappy.

So no one should have to sit in a seat where a baby has been changed but it's OK for a tiny baby to be placed on the toilet floor with the amount of germs and filth there is in public toilets? If you have a portable mat and/or use your lap this is a non issue. Like I said, not something I could get worked up about.

Absolutely disgusting. The people who think this is ok are disgusting. Their homes must be absolutely rank.

Grim!
If I'm having a coffee and a pastry or similar I don't want to see such poor hygiene on display

I think there’s a big difference between changing a 5 YO nappy and changing a baby nappy.

Babies are naked in front of other people all the time. Whenever I take mine to get weighed they strip off for the scales and there’s usually several people queuing up who can see it all. I have to take the nappy off too!