How do you really feel about Christmas this year?

Christmas when you’ve lost a loved one is difficult. I’ve been to two funerals in the past fortnight and I feel deeply for those left behind. After my dad died, that first Christmas was awful. But he’d be very upset if I didn’t get into the swing of it for his grandkids, so we try.

I have a 2 year old who is new to it and I think it's going to be very emotional! But also feeling a bit uneasy about her getting overwhelmed with presents etc...so excited with a mix of trepidation

Same as I've felt about it for 30 years, indifferent, mildly annoyed and exhausted with trying to be festive 'for the kids'

(Well, the one kid in my case)

If they banned Christmas and it was never spoken of ever again, I'd be fine with that.

Grinchy Bugger I are.

Sorry, but it's just shite unless you're either:

• Wealthy
• A kid

I dont do xmas bloody hate it same as other holidays.
Im of on holiday on the 20th and ill be back in the new year when its all over.

Looking forward to it because I love Christmas and everything that goes with it. However, this year have one DSS staying with us for 10 days - so have no idea whether we will see our GCs or not (long story and not mine to tell) so will take things as they go.
It's been a hard time lately as my boss has been diagnosed with cancer and is now undergoing chemo etc plus a colleague lost her mum this week who sadly never had a chance to meet her GGS, so covering extra hours for her as well as still meeting commitments for looking after other GCs. Last early get up for school run this week so looking forward to some chill out time with Xmas music, TV, food treats and few glasses of wine over the season. Will still be looking after GCs for odd days during the holidays but love playing new games the GCs have got for presents and it's good excuse to break out the popcorn and watch movies with them and generally recharge my batteries in readiness for the new year.

I lost my son in July this year and it’s still very raw. I understand and agree completely with what you’ve written. The Christmas crowds and music really trigger me and all I want to do is hide under a blanket, preferably for ever.

I'll be glad when the "seeing my family" bits are all over, but other than that it's all quite lovely.

I think our politics is partly to blame for this low feeling. We were expecting so much, maybe too much. Many feel a bit let down.

So sorry for your loss hope tomorrow goes as well as it can

I fucking hate it. Endless work, endless expense. We don't have any family as we moved abroad 5 years ago so doesn't feel like much of a celebration. The kids enjoy it.

We have withdrawn from the whole thing really as I’m still not recovered from recent hysterectomy and infection - no decorations up going to just do a roast ham and a few sides for Christmas meal and pick up a few luxuries when we do a normal food shop at the weekend. I’ve got gifts sorted but in reality it could be cancelled and I’d not be arsed

I'm usually a big Christmas person, xmas jumpers/tops for every day of the month etc, but this year, my mum (who was essentially Mrs Clause herself) isn't here. It's her funeral tomorrow and in a way it's fitting it's so close to Christmas, but also so very hard.
I hope everyone else who is grieving or finds it hard finds peace this Christmas.

The same as every year..... it's just a day. It's not that important (unless one is a practising Christian). It generates a lot of nonsense.
Roll on January!

I dread it every year, so this year is no different.

I'm so sorry Golden Boy.
This is my 5th Christmas without my teenage son. I only make any effort for my surviving child.
I hate this time of year and really struggle to keep it together.
You are not alone xx

I used to have a partner and his mother in law who were extroverts and found the whole thing a huge chore, Add to this ex was a vicar, so the whole church circus and many years I just felt like crying and not being able to show it. In-laws would come for ten days minimum - it has been over two weeks.

Current partner would describe himself as a quiet man.
We have a few family coming to us for Christmas Eve - a few hours. He is doing the catering.

We are going out for Christmas Day lunch to the restaurant we went to on our first proper date and are seeing his family who live just down the road for the family quiz in the evening. so a few hours in the middle of the day to rest. He has suggested, in his jokey way, we take our clothes off and see what happens in the few hours in the middle of the day,

Boxing Day we have no plans.

As an introvert I used to feel stretched like the skin on a drum. The change has been dramatic and not always easy, guilt has been a huge issue.

I hope everyone's Christmas can be what they want it to be. Without being too Tiny Tim x

I love Christmas and have been feeling Christmassy since November. We have had a stressful month in work and renovating our house, and I don’t feel particularly organised with gifts, but it’s okay as we’re not a huge gift family anyway: my husband and I aren’t buying for each other because we’re going for a nice meal and little night away just after Christmas Day. My parents come to us for brunch and dinner and the day is mostly about drinking champagne, cooking, opening presents, eating amazing food and a nice Christmas Night walk. Then that whole period after and before new year when you become cheese and booze. Oh I LOVE this time of year!!

I just went to my kids’ school concert yesterday. My six-year-old daughter looked adorable singing Rudolph with her class, and I’m pretty sure my ten-year-old daughter managed to hit the low trombone note on “Good King Wenceslas,” so that was nice. Gifts have been a little hectic, but it’s a nice Christmas season in the whole so far. 🙂

I hope that everyone who is having a rough time or grieving can have some peace and happiness over the holidays.

I am excited. After years and years of fertility issues we finally have our baby. It will be a quiet Christmas at home with a few gifts and lots of nice food.

Glad to hear it, go all out and enjoy yourself!

I’m finding it hard this year due to bereavement and ill health. We’ve decided to only celebrate it minimally this year (cards only - no decorations or tree, no special food, no gifts). Goodness me, it feels so liberating. With the money we saved we booked ourselves a holiday in the warmth.

Maybe I’ll do Christmas again in the future, but I’d like to tone it right down from now on. I don’t enjoy the commercialism at this time of year, and we’d prefer a much more simple, more traditional Christmas from now on.

I'm really looking forward to it. These last couple of months have been incredibly busy and I can't wait to spend a good amount of time with DH and the kids and catch up with all the wider family.

A bit sad to be honest.

Worried about my PIL's deteriorating quality of life, the stress my own parents are under, bereavements have hit all our young children hard. Missing my partner who died 2 years ago even though we were separated, my son's dad.

So it's quite sad really. Trying to keep cosy and support everyone.

I love Christmas, but memories haunt.

We're going away so I'm excited about that

Along with giving gifts to the kids/doing fun stuff with the kids

@Goldenboysmum I'm so so sorry for your loss.