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To think that all the dietary requirements these days is taking the joy out of hosting?

231 replies

ChristmasMenuDrama · 18/12/2024 19:37

Across my family and their partners, we have:

  • Allergic to all fruit
  • Allergic to nuts & seeds - won’t eat anything that “may contain” just in case.
  • Allergic to Seafood
  • Vegan
  • Coeliac
  • Legumes set off his IBS

And then there are other people who are just plain fussy like the person who won’t eat anything with cream, creamy, or that is too similar to cream in their opinion.

Then you factor in children and I start to lose the will to live.

I really try to be an accommodating host and I always find something everyone can eat eventually but is just me or is it getting worse?

It was fine when it was just one person with a “requirement” but a lot of the ones I have listed aren’t very compatible with each other.

It really takes the joy out of it when I have to keep vetoing things or replacing them with very expensive substitutes!

OP posts:
Ja428 · 18/12/2024 19:41

I literally could not manage all that. It’s just too much to think about - it’d be like running a restaurant.

I hate hosting and avoid it like the plague. I am however a decent guest and give cash to hosts.

Edingril · 18/12/2024 19:40

Allergies that are real can't be helped, everything else is choice

So i get the rest

Marblesbackagain · 18/12/2024 19:40

So you want people to play roulette with possibly their lives, em no thanks.

Lamelie · 18/12/2024 19:39

That’s a horrendous set of requirements.
My nuclear family has seafood anaphylaxis, vegan, lactose intolerance, no seed oils.
It’s much easier in the summer but still a struggle. Winter entertaining with your list would do my head in.

Jingleberryalltheway · 18/12/2024 19:39

Would you prefer they didn’t come or were ill?

Tinselskirt · 18/12/2024 19:38

God forbid people don't want to be incredibly unwell through eating your food.