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You don't need to follow specific rules to be middle class

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Skyrainlight · 18/12/2024 18:38

I've found a few mumsnetters seem to think you need to follow rules to be middle class, words not to use, places not to shop, behaviour that's not ok, etc. It's odd to me. For me middle class just 'Is', based on upbringing and current life. Surely the middle class behaviour (whatever that is) just comes naturally.

Based on my current life and upbringing I would class myself as middle class if I was required to define it, but I'm not conventional and don't try to follow any rules, and I don't see it as the badge of honour some on MN seem to see it as.

I know a lot of people don't believe in classes, for the of this purpose pol I'm just asking: Do you feel you need to follow specific rules to be middle class?

YABU - yes, class is defined by rules that need to be followed
YANBU - no you don't have to try to be middle class you just are

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LittleRedRidingHoody · 18/12/2024 18:54

I think they're considered 'rules' because if you're switching classes it makes you fit in. So someone who had a MC upbringing, lives in a MC home and has a MC profession doesn't have to think about it at all.

I was raised working class - I'm now probably middle class. Although I don't have to shop in M&S or behave a certain way, it's been eye opening for me to see these 'rules' and how most people on my sort of salary band/household behaves. I don't follow everything religiously, but a lot of MC 'traditions' are pretty useful to our lifestyle.

Differentstarts · 18/12/2024 18:47

Yabu I'm lower class and have a fridge freezer in my front garden. I live on a diet of white lightning and my kids Hayden,Jayden and okayden live of nuggets it's the rules

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