Aibu ti be slightly annoyed with DH for taking a Covid test

Oh ffs, no one is testing. Say nothing.

Surely you’re relieved that you now know to avoid other people and prevent someone vulnerable getting extremely poorly or dying…?

That’s what I don’t get. At all.its Xmas, the op knew she was contagious, hee husband got it. She knew she had something, a cold or flu or Covid. Why on earth would you just crack on socialising and risk giving it to people. Then complain your husband did a test.

I can’t even get my head round that. She was even so ill at one point she took a day off.

it’s the most selfish thing I’ve heard.

You’ve been going around coughing and snuffling over dozens of people for a week like Typhoid Mary but you’re annoyed at your husband for being responsible?

Yes, you should tell people, and yes you should be a bit shame-faced about it. It’s really selfish to knowingly spread anything around so close to Christmas - anyone catching cold, flu, Covid off you could miss their own family get togethers.

I'm confused by this too but I'm immunosuppressed and Covid is potentially a serious illness for me. I really do need to avoid people with Covid as much as possible and take antivirals when I contract it. I wish more people understood this. It may just be a cold for you but for some of us it's much, much more.

Editing to say I'm agreeing with your post, I know it's the OP downplaying it!

Fo the vast majority genuinely know, and come into contact with, no elderly people? That surprises me, tbf.

This. I think the issue with the OP is poor judgement around infection control for a viral infection that could make an elderly or vulnerable person very ill at a sensitive time of the year, not the nature of the virus.

Yes, but for the vast majority it’s thankfully been consigned to memory. There are always going to be some exceptions who need to take precautions, but most people don’t.

I don’t understand why it’s important it’s Covid. You knew you had a virus and you knew it was contagious. Why did you go and socialise with people; just before Xmas, knowing you risked them getting sick too. That’s awful

Not really. You know if you have cold symptoms or not and if you have any sense you know whether you need to change your plans or not. What difference does it make to know whether it's COVID?

Not in my world. Lots of people test.

Covid is not a cold ffs. That's the second time I've seen someone downplay Covid as a cold on MN in the last month or so.

But I know that those not in my position don’t want to hear about it, so I don’t talk about it, just get on with good infection control for all viruses, regular boosters for the oldies and testing as needed.

I thought I had a cold but tested because I was seeing my 90 year old mum who has cancer. It was covid. I'm glad I tested.

I repeat what I said upthread - those of us vulnerable or in contact with the vulnerable remain aware, because we don’t have an option.

Only on MN do I still hear about covid or testing for it. In RL no-one mentions it.

I can - as a fellow teacher - totally understand you going to work, being normally alert about virus infection control.

The socialising- not so much. Cold, flu or Covid, nobody wants your germs at this point of the year, when pretty much all of us will see our elderly nearest and dearest.

I suspect you didn’t want to know because you didn’t want the guilt - the confirmation that your judgement of what was appropriate while you were ill and infectious was a bit off. Hopefully no lasting harm done.

It is not a cold.

To be honest op even if it was just the cold I'd be pissed off if my friend or relative was spreading it around just before Christmas when I want to enjoy myself. Your mum is 80 and even a cold could really set her back.

Think the test is a red herring. The question is why you’ve exposed so many people to your illness, lot of serious flu around at the moment

So selfish to go around spreading your germs. And why would you not test to check if you had Covid? The tests are cheap and if you test positive you can then try not to spread it around. As should be the case for any bug you catch.

Yes, in general there is an expectation that a Covid-positive teacher who feels well enough to teach will be in class.

Common sense would dictate that a teacher with cough and cold symptoms will keep distance; up ventilation; be scrupulous about hygiene; be particularly aware if any medically vulnerable students or those living in households with medically vulnerable people in them (in secondary, you nay not be aware if this). Equally, unnecessary mingling with colleagues would be avoided.

A medically-vulnerable Covid positive teacher, for example one who has to take anti-virals or who has had Covid very seriously in the past, might be encouraged by their head or line manager to stay off for longer.

Of course you did.

This faux naive narrative is ore often than not used for people who don't test to justify it to themselves.

Are teachers allowed to stay off school if they test positive Covid but feel ok? I would have thought they’d be obliged to continue working with Covid and show up to the classroom.