Aibu ti be slightly annoyed with DH for taking a Covid test

I’m immunocompromised and have had 3 viruses since September and therefore have not managed to get my vaccinations as I’ve been poorly.
I’m terrified of catching the flu because my last virus I could hardly breathe.
I try to plan my life away from crowded places now.

I’ll be honest I absolutely hate people who go out coughing and sneezing and carrying on like they’re some sort of trooper.
If you’re ill stay at home.
I don’t want to end up in hospital struggling to breathe thank you.

And sod anyone who ends up in hospital yes?

The thing is, you've took the test now.
You know you're positive. I couldn't not tell people in that circumstance.
YABVVU if you don't tell people.

Of course it’s a thing. Covid is really damaging to some people so it’s idiotic not to attempt to control the spread in any way.

Of course it does. There are still people for whom Covid, or any other respiratory illness, would have serious consequences. You may not come into contact with the elderly, the very young or immuno compromised people, but many others do.

Your selfishness could actually seriously compromise someone with COPD or undergoing chemo, worst case scenario would be death. Current stats show about 15% of deaths are from flu, pneumonia and covid.

Ignorant as fuck.

Might be a non issue for you. You surely do understand that it is just a cold/nothing to some, but extremely destructive to others? My sibling nearly fucking died thanks to a twat who just thought he could go anywhere with any kind of illness and not give a shit about anyone else. It took me 8 weeks to get over when I had it last year . Fully jabbed.

If you test and feel obliged to stay home from work, many employers would not be very accepting of this now- especially if you are not very ill.
My employer still requests that people stay away from the office with covid (and wfh if they’re feeling well enough). Funnily enough they’d rather the whole workplace didn’t come down with it, meaning more absent staff and work not being done.

Oh come off it - OP is out galavanting at £££ activities. She can afford a test. And you don’t need to pay £2.50 per test. Amazon has them in packs that work out less than a quid each.

Covid or a cold, Why wouldnt you minimise contact with people ?

I wouldnt dream of spending time with a 80 year old, even with ‘just a cold’

People are so damn selfish
Especially this time of year

In your world maybe no one is testing, but please don't speak for society as a whole, because you're wrong. And I hope there isn't anyone vulnerable in your social circle.

Sorry op but of course people are testing. Just because some people are too cool for testing, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t test and act sensibly. Tests are sold in Amazon and supermarkets because sensible people are testing. I always test because I cant risk exposing my DM to Covid. She already had to have hospital treatment for Covid previously.

I am absolutely astonished that you exposed an 80yo parent without testing - as well as everyone else you and your DH have exposed. You can frame it however you want with “what people do” or “policies” - but the bottom line is that it’s really selfish and stupid to keep spreading Covid. It really fucks some people up. I’ve been on the receiving end of a call from ICU to discuss a 40yo member of my family’s hideous condition due to Covid. Fully jabbed as well.

it is really astonishing how everyone has chosen to forget that Covid is nothing/a cold to some, but a debilitating illness/killer to others - at random. But I guess that’s how our society treats anyone vulnerable - they can basically go fuck themselves.

The issue isn't whether it was covid or not!

The OP was unwell, and then thought it was fine to spread whatever illness she had with colleagues, people at the show and relatives (some elderly) at her mothers birthday. That is the issue!
Galivanting about when sick and spreading illness is the selfish part and the issue here! Knowing it was indeed covid is a sideline issue.

Plenty of people are still testing whenever they get symptoms.

I work with a very vulnerable group and I wouldn't consider going near them with cold symptoms anyway. But testing gives me a better idea of what bug I'm carrying and how long to stay away.

I still test OP, I'm not vulnerable but Covid puts me on my arse for 2 weeks and it takes me more than a month to get over the muscle pains and fatigue. I've had it 3 times and it's utterly exhausting. Please inform people you know and isolate if you can, noone wants it over Christmas. Xx

Finding the £2.99 per person per test is also a big ask for many families. I don't believe that everyone who disagrees with the OP only goes out when they are guaranteed healthy - that's not real life.

Like i said..... selfish

Also, at this time of year EVERYONE has a cold, or a sniffle, or a cough. It's winter. Unless it's flu or norovirus then of course people will carry on.

Covid is different to a cold and can have serious effects on the immune-compromised.

You feel bad because your DH did the right thing and you didn’t and now you have a responsibility to give other people a heads-up.

Remember to test in future and don’t make excuses.

If you test and feel obliged to stay home from work, many employers would not be very accepting of this now- especially if you are not very ill. And if you're self employed you would be depriving yourself of income with no way of recovering it, which is not possible for most people to afford (unless they are very ill and have to stay off work regardless of cause of illness, then it's unavoidable). People are not going to risk being unable to pay their rent and stay home from work when there is no financial support. If you have a supporter employer and generous sick pay it's a different story, but many (including me) can't afford to take the moral high ground in this situation (other than avoiding the elderly and medically vulnerable as much as possible). It's a privileged position to be in, if you can afford to stay home.

Unless someone is supposed to be getting anti-viral medications, there is not any point in testing. You do the same things whatever the test results because you treat symptomatically.

DH is on immunosuppressants and anti-rejection drugs. He does not expect anyone to test for Covid specifically before they visit, but he would appreciate a heads-up if you have been throwing up or coughing up crap for a couple of days. That way he can do his own risk assessment. I think that's reasonable.

It's a non-issue covid was five years ago. We all just have to learn to live with it. What difference would it make to tell everyone now - after they've already been to a crowded event and been out and about mixing with people?

You shouldn’t have been out knowingly spreading germs, whether you knew it was Covid or just thought it was a cough and cold type illness. That’s selfish and irresponsible.

I know too many immunocompromised people to risk making them ill if I were to catch anything.

Exactly this. I mixed with some people who were out and about with what seemed to be a harmless cough and we're all still sick 3 weeks later. I wouldn't dream of socialising normally when sick. Who wants to be unwell - even if it turns out to be just a cold - over Xmas?