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DF commenting on PP weight

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SparkleJolly · 18/12/2024 09:55

Just need a rant because I've bitten my tongue and it's starting to really annoy me.

5 months PP with much longed for DS and every time we see DF he asks how I'm getting on with my fitness or when I'm getting back to the gym, but he's now started to make direct reference to my weight saying I've got a bit of timber on me or I need to shift some bulk etc. Apart from getting to grips with motherhood & my amazing son, I'm also having tests for a potential chronic condition that is affecting my ability to do the exercise I normally love doing, he is even asking now whether this condition is to do with my weight! I just feel really flat because my body confidence is already at an all time low.

DF is a fitness fanatic and has a very outdated attitude towards all things body confidence. I'm aware I need to lose a little bit of weight and get moving again but I don't need it pointing out every time we see them! What do I do!?

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ChristmasinBrighton · 18/12/2024 10:09

Tell him you don’t want any comments about your weight, it’s not helpful. Text if that’s easier.

If he persists, you get up and leave.

Pixilicious1 · 18/12/2024 10:09

My dad is the same. You just have to say - dad, stop commenting on my weight all the time. If he argues back I’d say ‘it’s rude and it upsets me’
if he doesn’t accept that, he’s a dick.

Pinkywoo · 18/12/2024 10:08

No you got it right, not sure why people don't understand. He sounds like my dad, who I (not coincidentally) am very low contact with!

SparkleJolly · 18/12/2024 10:04

Sorry maybe I've got the abbreviation wrong it is my dad making these comments Blush

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HagsRule · 18/12/2024 10:00

He sounds lovely(!) Not! I'd say mind your own business I've just made a human being, if you can't say anything nice then please, say nothing at all.

If he continues then I'd bin him as a friend.

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 18/12/2024 10:00

I feel for you, I've had this. But it was my charming mother and father and I wasn't even pp.
The only thing you can do is tell him exactly what you've typed in this thread, if you haven't already. If he doesn't 'get' it, literally walk away every single time he starts on the subject of your weight. Just shut him down. You really don't need to hear that shite.

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