DH has brought a kitten home, I’m so upset 🙁

Why is that any of your business and what’s it got to do with what the OP is asking?

And yes, PP, any animal that’s available this time of year is a bad idea because it encourages people to breed for the Christmas market. No breeder worth their salt will let animals go before Christmas.

I absolutely adore having cats and after losing our last two, he realised I couldn't be without cats so let me have two more. I totally accept it's me that's into them, but at the same time I'd never go and get another because I know he wouldn't want it. Also, I'm a strong believer, you don't upset the dynamics of what you've got.

It's worthing looking into slowly introducing the kitten to your cats. It needs to be kept in a room separate from them (obviously with plenty of attention and playing with yourselves) and then scents slowly exchanged - ie place a towel/rags placed near kitten's bed for a couple of days, then leave them around the house so your cats get used to the scent, before any introduction.

OP already has 2 cats she loves, so your pointless "I'm so cool because I hate cats" was unnecessary.

No idea why people who hate children or cats are so quick to announce it, like it makes them superior or something.

My 2 cats were very pissed off when we got an alsation puppy but we're fine after about a week

Agree, except for me and DP there's not even any kids and we may or may not even bother with a roast!
People do seem to think everyone has an 'Oooh I'm so busy' stressy Christmas.

As, with flea/worm treatments, vet check, vaccinations, food, occasional sitter and pet insurance, a well cared for cat now Costa about £120pcm, I hope he's paying.

Anyway, a new pet should always be a joint decision. Kittens shouldn’t be left alone - you need to plan them so you’ll have time to be at home with them for a sustained period. At the very least as others have said you need the kitten in a separate space with food and litter and let the older cats calm down.

Why wasn't two enough? He's a right ignorant wanker doing that.

Brace yourself, because soon three won't be enough. And then four.

Why are they all indoor?

Hahahahaha

It’s quite common. Kittens can be very confident and freak out older cats. We’ve had two sets of kittens in recent years. One pair hid under the sofa in a separate room for two days while older cats sat staring in through the window sitting on the sill. Another pair arrived, jointly barged their way out of the room at the first opportunity, and ran straight up to the adult cat with tail aloft - cue fleeing older cat.

Outrageous to make a unilateral decision about something like that when you live together. I’m sorry but he sounds like he doesn’t respect you.

Actually just read they’re indoor cats, this could be more problematic, there’s no way of getting away from each other. You need to separate them for a while and introduce them gradually. It is too many really unless you live in a massive house.

Your DH is a twat. Rehome the kitten and him with it.

Do you mean the one where the stupid bloke brought a kitten home & then ignored him? I hope that OP’s thrown him out by now.

Just get him to take it back! Don’t be bullied into accepting his actions. Or else where does this stop?

I think you need to think strategically and take action quickly.
After Christmas the rescue centres quickly fill up with abandoned DHs, any chance you can get him out this week. Give him a head start to find his forever family.

Rehome the bastard?

Unacceptable and totally unreasonable to go against your wishes. Does he do this in other aspects of your life? You need to have a discussion with him about this issue.

Turning to the cats, things should get better. I’m a mad cat lady with 4 and have introduced new ones over the years generally successfully. The only time it didn’t work was when we took in a stray that bullied our existing cat but that shouldn’t happen here. It’s not very fair on the new kitten though, it will be very traumatising for it, and your DH needs to bear this in mind and never do this again.

I’d say if the kitten’s still in the house when you get home from work, you’ll be approaching a solicitor for a divorce. This isn’t really about the kitten, it’s about his total and complete lack of respect for your wishes.

You said no. It should be a joint decision. How many is he going to stop at?

www.cats.org.uk/help-and-advice/cats-and-your-family/other-cats

www.pdsa.org.uk/pet-help-and-advice/looking-after-your-pet/kittens-cats/preventing-stress-in-cats#:~:text=Many%20cats%20like%20their%20own,cats%20come%20into%20the%20area

It’s really unfair on the cats. It will get better but it’s well known that other cats in their territory is the biggest cause of stress for cats. So he’s totally selfish, and disrespectful.
poor kitten, brought in to this situation and just before Christmas. I’d be furious.

The issue for me here is that it's a big decision to get a new pet. It should be a whole family decision, not just your DH doing whatever he wants without discussing it first.

I knew a woman who got two cats and they hated each other. They started a territorial shitting war against each other and, in her words, were trying to 'shit each other out of existence'. Never seen anything like it. In the end she had to get rid of one of them.

I’m sorry OP but I had to chuckle at the idea of 2 grown cats hiding from a kitten 😂
But yes I agree it’s a bad idea and the kitten should probably be rehomed.