My partner was "bullying" his 17 year old coworkers boyfriend "for fun" it's freaked me out beyond belief

Thats the first thing I thought. He fancies her and is trying to stick a wedge in to split them or cast doubts.

What a wanker

That is absolutely disgraceful. I’d kick his ass to the kerb quicker than he could draw breath. He’s shown you who he is, believe him. There is no way I can forgive someone for mentally torturing anyone and to laugh about it and feel anything other than deep shame and embarrassment is fucking psychotic.

He's told you exactly why he’s done it. He wants to make her poor boyfriend feel insecure so he can put doubt in his mind and cause arguments in their relationship presumably so they split up and he can have sex with her. Why would he try and convince him that she’s having sex with other people if he doesn’t want to have sex with her himself? He said 28 is old, so he wants a young girl. It’s predatory behaviour. 🤢 He’s a low-life and so are all his colleagues that joined in. He is a vile specimen with the mental range of a tea spoon. There’s no way I could ever have sex with him again. Fuck that. He’s misogynistic as well and I expect if you think not too deeply about it that this is just one in a long line of humiliating things he’s done, they’re probably just more subtle.

Dump him and make sure he knows how disgusting he is and laugh at his tiny cock and all the times you had to fake an orgasm whilst you do it. Doesn’t matter if it’s true or not, this juvenile, nasty creature needs bringing down to his own level. Can’t abide bullies they are the worst type of people. If 28 is “old” why is he so immature and gross? 🤮

I may be sensitive about this because of a suicidal son but OP, that made me cry.

How utterly vile :(

My ex was nasty to his co worker because she was promoted over him. He literally made her cry in the toilets , he was awful. I ended the relationship for many reasons, but like your one he was nasty bully with narcissistic injury . Awful. Leave him.

This is horrifying, that poor boy . My son is attending a Christmas party with his girlfriend soon and I'm sick to my stomach of the thoughts of grown men treating him like this . As others have said your boyfriend has shown you his real character i would dump him immediately

i came in with that statement yes. Admitedly as i went through the details and impact the absolute depravity and disgust i felt undeniably strengtened and increased/so- let me ammend that now- to have absolutely no alternative -this =absolute dealbreaker. (in continuing any form rship with him,at all)

He sounds like a very nasty piece of work if he thinks bullying is funny.
certainly couldn’t stand being near anyone like him.

He sounds rough.

Do better.

What a pathetic excuse for a human he is. Not only did he do this and encourage others to join in, but he gleefully told you all about it. It would be over for me on the spot.

Ugh.

Oh I’ve just re-read he has only been there three months? If his company has anything about them they will fire him.

Don't ignore or minimise this. It's totally unacceptable.

You have a LONG life ahead of you - choose someone kind and thoughtful to share it with.

That would be awful at any age, but it really resonates with me because my DC is in their first job and receiving this type of "banter" from his co-workers. DC is already on anti-depressants, so I am furious (and worried). No excuse possible for this.

Let’s hope she reports him and he loses his job. Nobody should have to put up with that shit. Bet he treats her badly in the workplace as well.

Bets on he fancies her, doesn’t have a chance in hell and this is how he reacts. Grim.

I really couldn't get past the ick that would give me.

What a truly horrible, nasty man he is.

Don't let him gaslight you into minimalising this because he will - he has shown who he is now.

What will you do?

Horrible. I couldn't be with this man.

He sounds disgusting

I'd be so embarrassed by him I'd end things

Also, if he'd bullied my son in this way, I'd track him down and humiliate him in the worst, most public way
Bullies stop bullying when they get bullied back

Reconsider your future with him.

Omg this is absolutely horrible. I couldn't look at him the same way again. Pathetic.

This is disturbing. I really hope he gets reported by either the girl or one of his co workers. Appalling behaviour, rather sick actually. To pick on defenceless teens shows that he is a coward and let's face it, he's probably a bit of a thicko. I'm guessing you were picking up on red flags but have been ignoring them? I doubt this sort of behaviour is out of the blue.

This is a red flag and would be such an ick for me. Finding it funny to belittle a child because that’s what a 17 year old is and not only doing it, but proudly boasting about it to you? He’s disgusting. Don’t know if you have children or want them but this would be a big warning sign.

Dump him. He’s nasty as hell and at some point it will be you on the receiving end.

I couldn’t stay with someone who behaved like this.

Poor co-worker and her boyfriend.

Grim!

That would be a deal breaker for me. What a fucking horrible person.