I live with my adult children as a single parent. They both pay a small amount of rent per month. My older child does their own laundry and has done for many years.
My younger child cannot seem to manage to do any laundry. I am talking months worth of clothes. She will either wear things a lot without washing them or she will borrow my clothes or buy new ones. The laundry pile is usually truly gigantic - at least 10 loads if not more. She has a fairly small room and our house isn’t huge so it’s just on the floor not in a basket.
I keep asking her to address the pile for a few reasons. Firstly it does smell after a while even if she thinks it doesn’t. We have carpet and musty old clothes surely aren’t good for smells on carpets. Secondly she is afraid of spiders and expects me to come help get rid of them but the washing is attracting them as a hiding place. Third it’s often all over electrical items, laptops, extension leads and I think it’s posing a fire hazard. Fourth I do find it a bit revolting and embarrassing if anyone was to ever visit. We live in social housing and I have had workman in before and she leaves her door wide open, it just gives me the ick and cringe. I also don’t like my family visiting I am embarrassed if they were to see it.
We have reached an impasse before where I have done her laundry in the end and she was grateful for the help, so as it’s coming up to Christmas I have done a few loads in my spare time to try to get the volume down.
she has got really cross with me for going in her room and taking the clothes and washing them. She says I am controlling and that it gives me the ick is not her problem. She doesn’t want to live the same way as I do so I need to get over it
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