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To quit my job rather than do this?

167 replies

WelshRambler · 17/12/2024 22:16

Hey all,

Looking for some unbiased advice. Every year my work hold a big event for a small charity the week before Christmas. It raises a lot of money and really makes a huge a difference to the charity. We literally raise more money for the charity in one hour than the charities get in a year. The charity changes every year.

This year I was asked to organise which charity we would partner with, which I duly did. I chose a lovely charity who were really excited. I then went on annual leave leaving both work and the charity with all details confirmed, travel organised etc. I’ve kept in touch with the charity on my time off and they’ve shared some really heart warming and heart wrenching stories that they would like to share. Everything seemed well.

Cue tonight. I’ve been asked by work to stand my charity down with one days notice because work has found a charity that they think will do better on socials.

AIBU to refuse to stand my charity down because 1) it’s wrong and 2) I’m on leave?

I’ve point blank messaged to say I won’t do it but honestly they might force me to. Also, if I don’t stand my charity down and they turn up I will be in big trouble.

I am going to fight this and genuinely would rather quit than do it.

Before anyone suggests it, it’s not possible to have both charities.

WWYD in this situation?

OP posts:
Venicelagoon · 19/12/2024 22:49

Good. How awful though that the company you work for seemed to expect you to drop the charity in the sh*t after all the work you'd done with that particular charity. Shows a real lack of integrity and not at all "charitable". A pity you cant name the unscrupulous company.

Notmanyleftnow · 19/12/2024 22:26

WelshRambler · 19/12/2024 21:24

I won!

We went ahead as planned with my charity and plan to do something a bit different with the other charity in the New Year.

Fantastic! Well done.

evtheria · 19/12/2024 22:23

Yay! Well done, sounds like the best outcome for everyone!

Zonder · 19/12/2024 22:23

Wonderful! Well done.

EwwSprouts · 19/12/2024 22:14

So pleased you secured a positive outcome.

Hollowvoice · 19/12/2024 22:03

WelshRambler · 19/12/2024 21:24

I won!

We went ahead as planned with my charity and plan to do something a bit different with the other charity in the New Year.

Well done! I was wondering how you'd gone on, so pleased it ended well

Mygreyhair · 19/12/2024 22:02

Bloody hell @WelshRambler, well done!
Can you say how much money was raised?

MadnessIsMyMiddleName · 19/12/2024 22:01

That's BRILLIANT news, OP! I'm SO pleased that you won out in the end, and it's good to know that you didn't have to sacrifice your own job and wellbeing in order to get them to do the right thing. You should be proud of yourself, unlike the people you work for. In your shoes, I'd be thinking very carefully whether I actually wanted to continue working for a company like this, as they clearly have no morals, but at least this way you can go when it suits, and don't need to leave as a matter of principal, although it's good to know you have some!

elfies · 19/12/2024 21:59

You Won ... thats great .
Respect !!!

Chonk · 19/12/2024 21:52

Well done OP!

Balloonhearts · 19/12/2024 21:31

Point out that the socials are not going to fare well if they let the chosen charity down at the last minute for no good reason.

Agapornis · 19/12/2024 21:31

Well done!

tommyhoundmum · 19/12/2024 21:27

That's just disgraceful and shameful

WelshRambler · 19/12/2024 21:24

I won!

We went ahead as planned with my charity and plan to do something a bit different with the other charity in the New Year.

OP posts:
Deeperthantheocean · 19/12/2024 21:21

That's appalling! Tell them far too late to change, it would cost the company more money to do so, put them in a bad light, bad SM comeback etc as the immorality of it will fall on deaf ears. Xx

RavenhairedRachel · 19/12/2024 19:58

The company I worked for had a community fund which we used for local causes . If we had organised something for a local charity no way on earth would we have gone back on our word.Stand your ground and say your charity are so excited about it and would be devastated. Also they would go to the local paper and social media to slag off your company if they were let down at the last minute.

ThatWardrobe · 19/12/2024 19:40

What was the outcome, OP?

SootherSue · 19/12/2024 19:37

Sorry, that's utterly ridiculous. Surely the most social media friendly option is one with a properly planned campaign behind it rather than one that has been farted out with 24 hours' notice? Are there any graphic design assets to consider - e.g. boards or programmes with the charity's name on? Because they aren't being done in a day, not enough turnaround for the printers. Also, what are the consequences to the company's image of ditching a charity at the last moment (right before fucking Christmas)? Doubt the charity will blast them on social media, but word of mouth still matters and the charity might have published posts about the event already.

If they wanted to change charities they should have spoken up at the time. Has this request definitely come from the absolute top and not from the one silly twat whose idea it is?

Completely understand why you would want to walk over this if your circumstances will allow it.

timenowplease · 19/12/2024 18:59

Christ that is shallow. Bunch of cunts.

Keepingthingsinteresting · 19/12/2024 18:46

Any update @WelshRambler ? I hope they came to their senses!

Lochroy · 19/12/2024 18:43

Here for the updates and hoping it all worked out ok!

LookItsMeAgain · 19/12/2024 18:42

What is the outcome of the day @WelshRambler ?

overthinker82 · 19/12/2024 18:36

I would also remind them that raising money for a good cause, isn’t done just to ‘look good’ to the outside world. It should be done because you/they want to make a real difference to lives of those benefitting from the charity. The fact they’ve even referenced socials would make me question the organisation I was working for.
Do the right thing, absolutely go to bat for the original charity and don’t budge.

IAm16StoneHalloween2024 · 19/12/2024 00:08

How did it go @WelshRambler ?

jacks11 · 18/12/2024 11:17

I am in no way defending OP’s employers, but I do think some posters are getting a little carried away in moral outrage and giving poor advice. I get the indignation, but just because something is immoral does not mean any laws or codes of practice have been broken (not saying they have or haven’t, I’ve no idea and nor does anyone on here) and acting as though they have breached contract/broken the law etc could leave OP (and possibly the charity) in a vulnerable position if it turns out there only infraction is a moral one.

I agree OP’s employers may be on a sticky wicket if they tried to sack her for refusal to stand down this charity- mainly because she is on annual leave, and so not available for work duties- and agree that make clear her position that this is repugnant behaviour, probably at odds with the company’s stated values etc. and yes, ask if they have thought about potential for negative publicity should the charity choose to disclose what has happened. That way she not only makes her stance clear, she covers herself if there is negative fallout. BUT don’t think she should threaten to take any direct action herself, unless she is very sure of her ground, legally speaking, In her position I would be searching for a new job too.

I think if this company’s behaviour did come to light it might cause a stir for a short period but unless it really gains traction, it probably won’t. I doubt it will go viral- this sort of thing does happen depressingly often in the charity sector and it rarely has the disastrous consequences posters are foretelling. Possible, yes, but far from certain. Company may be happy to take the flak- they would probably try to explain it away as a misunderstanding or individual employee error. Any comeback is highly likely to be a brief, flash in the pan, if anything at all. Especially if this local charity is not well known without much social media presence. They are probably going to be unwilling to go too far with making it known in case it puts off other donors. It’s all well and good to say it won’t because people will be outraged at the way they’ve been treated- but I suspect any “bounce” in support would be brief and, sadly, there is potential that controversy over donors (even if not the charities fault) could put off some potential donors and this small charity may well not want to take that risk. It’s not nice/fair/right etc, but doesn’t make it untrue. OP may also not be doing them a favour by blowing this up and publicising it, if that is the case. I think she should speak to the charity before doing anything, though I’d advise against her doing anything directly without her own legal advice.

Furthermore, whilst this company’s behaviour is immoral, I am not so sure they have breached any laws (op does not say there was a formal contract, for instance) or codes of conduct/practice. Therefore, protection under whistleblower rules may not be covered- so OP should not threaten to “let everyone know” unless she is absolutely sure she would be covered by them. I would also be very careful (preferably with legal advice) about publicly naming and shaming the company on this forum, or any other platform. Similarly, by all means keep evidence of her correspondence surrounding this, in case there are any repercussions from her refusal to stand down this charity- but I’d want some legal advice before handing that evidence on to a 3rd party (the media or the charity itself, for instance). Depending on a number of factors (content of OP’s contract, for instance) these sorts of actions could get her into significant legal difficulties, and I suspect the company she works for may have deeper pockets to fight it than the OP. There could be all sorts of “softer’ repercussions for her too. I’d want to have solid legal advice before making threats or going public on this.