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He's pissed off because I asked if he'd taken drugs

35 replies

BerryMary107 · 17/12/2024 21:42

I've been dating somebody for 10 weeks or so and it has been going well.

During that time, he has mentioned drug use in his wider circle. An ex girlfriend and friends. The second time drugs came up (tonight, telling me about a friend of his) I innocently and genuinely asked him whether he used to do those drugs himself.

It didn't feel like an inappropriate question to me given that it's a theme among people he knows but he's majorly pissed off, offended that I even asked and threatened to block me for it. I'm now being blanked.

Was I wrong to ask? Would you have? Is his reaction proportionate?

OP posts:
Edingril · 17/12/2024 22:10

If i need to ask it would be over before I would actually ask

UghFletcher · 17/12/2024 22:07

He just told on himself OP, throw this one back

Thatcastlethere · 17/12/2024 22:03

Really wierd overreaction on his part.
Historic drug use wouldn't bother me but his reaction to a completely reasonable question would have me ending it.

BerryMary107 · 17/12/2024 21:59

It's a very extreme reaction isn't it? Especially since he was the one who brought it up in the first place.

The context today is him telling me about a friend of his who is going through a hard time and how he wants to offer support but can't have him at his house because he's on drugs.

That, coupled with him speaking about his ex girlfriend using the same drugs, did make me wonder.

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Marine30 · 17/12/2024 21:50

Threatened to block you? Over asking a reasonable question - he sounds awful. Also is he 14? What a child 🙄

Starlightstarbright4 · 17/12/2024 21:47

Ace56 · 17/12/2024 21:46

Methinks he doth protest too much. He obviously did used to do them/still does them and is defensive about it. If drugs are a dealbreaker for you, definitely dump him! The silent treatment is also a red flag

My exact thoughts

InkHeart2024 · 17/12/2024 21:46

10 weeks? Bin this guy. Whether he does drugs or not, this is a horrible response. Not the man for you.

Ace56 · 17/12/2024 21:46

Methinks he doth protest too much. He obviously did used to do them/still does them and is defensive about it. If drugs are a dealbreaker for you, definitely dump him! The silent treatment is also a red flag

Zone2NorthLondon · 17/12/2024 21:44

You asked in context of it’s the norm in his social milieu. So uncomfortable but in context
If you’d randomly asked,wih no context, that’d be inappropriate

healthybychristmas · 17/12/2024 21:44

Well he has given you his answer hasn't he! Dump him.