What time do you expect your partner home from a night out?

I don't expect him home at any time in particular, I just expect him to come home at all. If he was heading out drinking early in the morning I wouldn't be relying on him for anything that day or the next morning anyway.

In situations where we've been down to one key I go out the back door (leaving it open) and lock the front door, hide the key, then come back into the house through the back door and lock that.

It's unfair of you to suddenly take issue with him going out today just because you feel you don't get a break. Make time for your break. Arrange it with him in advance as he has done. Go out and come home whenever you feel like it!

I dont expect anytime. Dont care if im honest. But im expected to be home by 10.30pm

It’s a one off. As long as he pulls his weight the rest of the year then what’s the problem?

I wouldn't expect another adult to be back from a Christmas party before closing time, unless parties aren't their thing and they prefer to slip out early. It's not even half 8, there may well be people who haven't even arrived there yet!
I don't think that's really the problem though. Really it's two adults sharing a key and that you're feeling claustrophobic parenting a toddler all day. The key thing is an easy fix tomorrow and make sure to get a spare cut. The parenting frustration I would make a new years priority - find a healthier balance for yourself.

I'd just go to bed. We've got kids so as long as he can do what's needed the next day it's up to him. But realistically someone would be tired and probably annoying if they're always out past 1am say.

Why do these people never take their keys out with them, FFS? OP, lock the door and go to bed - he can get a hotel room.

Course it would be, as its not something you do often and everyone is entitled to some time for a night out.

Yes, it would be. It is one day a year, not every week. You have had a long day, but surely you can stand it for one day to let your partner enjoy himself. Arrange a day out for yourself if you want one.

Regarding your question, I would expect him back when he wants to come home. I wouldn’t expect him to leave a good night out because I have given him a curfew. Maybe if he was out after 2am-ish I might start to wonder where he’d got to.

DP gets back when she gets back, sometimes it's a few hours and she'll be back before 11pm having not had much, sometimes it's 3am, and one time I had to wake her up off the kitchen floor.

Likewise I went out on my works Christmas do at the weekend and got home at 4am. Our DS is a bit older now (11) but it's never been something we get on each other's backs about.

I don’t mind when he’s home as long as he doesn’t wake me or the baby 😂

You're confusing you not enjoying being a SAHM with your partner having a night out. Why shouldn't he be allowed one? Why don't you go out when you want to too?

Just look at fixing the issues of why you feel so unhappy being at home all the time rather than take it out on his 1 night out he's having.

Then lock up and text him that you will wiat up til 11 and then he will have to ring you when he gets home

It's no wonder that hardly anyone wants to get married and have kids anymore. You get moaned at if you want a day to yourself!

So will it then be acceptable for me to leave at 11am in the morning and come home at daft o clock silly drunk while he stays home with the toddler then?

Well yeah - why wouldn't it be?

The problem here is twofold: he hasn't taken a key so it's a bit of an adulting fail and imposes on when you want to go to bed.

And two: you're not getting any time to yourself.

And maybe three actually: drunk people are unreliable which given your history with your mum might be triggering.

All of these are either fixable or not his fault.

But what has this got to do with your OH going out? Organise a night out or a day out or a night away if that's what you want.

It's frustrating to not be given an approximate time, I totally get that, but if he told you he'd be home and arrived home at 8pm, that still doesn't change the fact you feel you don't get a break or a night out!?

Sure. Why wouldn’t it be?

Your partner is an adult, you don't own him so he can come home whenever he wants. It's absolutely crazy you only have one key to your house we both have our own keys plus spares plus a set at a friends house and when my kids are older they will also have their own keys

It also sounds like the issue here is you spending all day with a toddler and no break.

can you send them to nursery just 1-2 days a week and get a job within those hours to give you more money, time to be an adult, child free tine

Bless you. I think the issue is your overwhelmed with toddler. Which I get completely. When is he off next ? Book a day out for yourself.

Anytime, especially as he rarely goes out.
If DH is likely to be out really late all I ask is that he tries to be quiet so he doesn’t wake us.

The only issue here is the lack of key. Ridiculous not to have another! We have one each and then 2 spares (for people visiting, feeding our cats, losing ours etc).

Women treat their partners like children and are then surprised they behave like children.

He's out, on a Christmas Do, I wouldn't expect to see him (anyone) before 1am .certainly not before 8 pm.

the fact you've not found a babysitter & got your toddler used to them is no reason to begrudge him a night (not afternoon) out.

sorry, but you're being whingey & wet. Put the key out for him, lock the door from the inside.

Go & get a key cut or ordered tomorrow.

So let me get this straight. You go out much more than your partner. One of the few times he's gone out, it doesn't for you (self imposed) rules on going out. Your fed up because you've not been out for a while. He is working. You are not.
Sorry but you are being unreasonable. He's gone out, just this once, on a Christmas do. It's only 8.20pm in the UK. If it were 4.20am I could perhaps understand.

You said you go out more than he does though